Eating in front of people

You're too concerned with what people think of you. Eat what you want and how you want, I dont give a shit.

 

You have crap friends man.

 

Why do you think you feel upset specifically about this topic? Is there something about food that you feel anxious about?

People can be judgmental about so many things - why do you think that your perceived judgment from others on the topic of food has the meaning that it does to you? (Why food?)

 

Who are you eating with? None of the people I eat with have ever said anything like that. The only time we talk about the food is if it's something they haven't seen or heard of before.

 

OP, give a lot less of a fuck over trivial matters. Trust me, majority don't give a fuck what you eat or how you eat it. This is just paranoia.

 

This is just like people who can't go out by themselves because they feel "too weird", it's just insecurity and paranoia.

 

Guys, if telling people “have you ever tried not having feelings?” worked then this forum wouldn’t exist. There’s a reason he feels this way and you can’t just say “why don’t you just snap out of it” about this any more than any of you can just snap out of watching porn. Is it productive when people say “well just don’t watch porn, what’s the big deal lol”? No, of course not. There’s a long process that involves a lot more than just abstaining.

To improve, people have to understand why they feel what they feel instead of just running away from feelings or ignoring them. There is an underlying problem here for each and every one of us which isn’t possible to ignore or deny. Porn is the outlet of choice for ignoring your actual underlying problems and that’s why you can’t stop. Only through learning about that can anything change. The same is true for this guy and his problems with people watching him (or other people) eat and having some comment to make about it.

 

now now, what the fuck is wrong with ordering a salad? I eat salads all the time to get vitamins and minerals in my body. But whatever. It's like saying a person doesn't want to take their pills every day and they have to be ordered by the court to take them. lol.

 

Feelings are the whole problem. An over emphasis on them and probably the biggest problem with Millenials.

 

Do you still remember which podcast you listened to ? would like to hear as well

 

There is a difference between ignoring your feelings entirely and overemphasizing them. Facing feelings means understanding why they happen and where they come from. And in doing this, you can get better because you will understand yourself better. I am not suggesting you treat yourself like a baby - I’m suggesting that you actually just try to understand what is happening in your brain. Some people have experiences in life that lead them to react differently to situations than other people. Sometimes the way they react to things has negative consequences for themselves and others. Unfortunately, it doesn’t help them to just pretend it never happened - if it did, people wouldn’t have the problems they do. Can you explain why you think it’s so useless?

Also, I’m not sure what your image is referring to because getting a girlfriend or some other distraction is not even really an issue that I’m referring to here - do you want to understand why you care so much about having one? If not, why? What possible detriment could there be to understanding yourself better?

I’m not saying this to belittle anyone here but if you ask a single person who has overcome their problems (addiction, depression, anxiety, etc) if it was useful to continue ignoring the source of their feelings and not to try to understand it better I can guarantee 0% will say “yes”. You can verify this by talking to people who have overcome these types of problems. 12 step programs do not say “ignore your feelings, it’s fine”, right?

Also, this isn’t some issue with millennials although I get what you mean. What I think you see when you say that is actually another form of ignoring feelings - millenials ignore their some of their feelings and overemphasize other ones, actually very similarly to many of the people on this forum. Overemphasizing sexual feelings and ignoring other ones (hint: it’s often shame). And what about the stoics? Did they ignore their feelings? Were they like millenials? I really don’t understand why you think somehow feelings are the problem.

 

There will always be opinions . . .

You can always choose to give them light . . .

 

I grew up in the midst of the rough and tumble 80's, with Stallone and Schwarzennegger action movies and traditional gender roles; kids had minimal video games and played outside more til the lights came on. Mom had dinner ready when we got home. High school sports like Football it was still okay to play with extreme aggression and knock the other guy's head off. The Military was Spartan and not a social experiment like it is today. Feelings were handled by Mom and even then it wasn't extended past the 20's, 30's, 40's like it is today. A soy boy back then would've been laughed out of existence. Shit has really gone downhill but one bright light pushing the enemies back at the gate was President Trump's election win. The battle continues...