My Weapons Against Relapse

I was having urges last night and went for a run then a cold shower... it helped, so the idea of just dipping it in container seems crazy/great. I won't have to take a whole shower to do this (which makes my wife wonder why I am taking a shower right after dinner, I haven't told her about all this yet, trying to get some progress under my belt) So though it sounds extreme I am going to give this tip a try. Thanks.

 

i like 1 and 3
other stuff are too hardcore

 

I know we're having a bit of fun with it, but I will mention something that is obvious to me now, but wasn't before I quit the PMO cycle, and that is totally eliminating porn from my head. At the beginning, when I was trying to quit the PMO cycle I still watched porn. I played with it like a toy. As long as I was not MOing to it, I thought I was making progress. But then I got a bit more educated on the problem and found that porn itself is the real culprit. Once I finally got it out of my head, quit thinking about it, watching it, seeing it, imagining it, remembering it, stashing it, fantasizing, and using porn substitutes (anything softcore not considered porn but used by me to create a little fantasy in there), I found things got a lot easier. I know the emphasis in this forum is not fapping, but once I understood fapping was a symptom of porn abuse (for me, not necessarily everyone here), I cut porn out of my head (easier said than done), and have not PMOed for a long time. Or, you could just slam it in a car door.

Thanks for posting. Reading posts and replying are part of my recovery.

 

I don't feel like this kind of behavior is healthy. Mind you, I'm not sure if you're joking about shooting yourself with airsoft guns and all, but still...

What you could actually be doing, especially if you continue to do such things for a long term, is equating physical harm to yourself with sexual arousal. You could be setting yourself up for some kinky fetishes in the future without realizing it. That, or you could start to have physical issues with becoming aroused or erect if the pain is too great to bear. Imagine being ready to sleep with someone and suddenly you can't get it up because you're afraid it might hurt!

Just, try and consider alternative means of "cooling off", as it were.

 

Thank you william for sharing this! I am like you, and maybe its not everyone here, but my problem for sure starts with porn or lust (One of my wife's mags can be as bad for me as hardcore porn) so I have to stay away from it. For me Porn always lead to MO. I have only once or twice MO'ed with Porn. So for me it's not option to stop MO-ing while still looking at Porn. I appreciate your input here. Very helpful to this new guy!

 

One note...
I know from psychology, the more you try to FIGHT a part of yourself..the more it becomes harder.
By fighting more, you focus more on the thing that you don't like..and you bring it MORE into your brain.
The best thing, is not to fight But change...change your thinking to something else, its the best way.