Agree or Disagree - Don't Avoid Sexual Imagery

Thanks for the post. This is all new to me. I am just happy I made it 24 hours. I do recall being in a therapists office 10 years ago to discuss this issue and as I was waiting in her waiting room I noticed all the women magazines on the coffee table. When I went in to talk to her I mentioned that sex is everywhere - even in her waiting room! What!?! she said? The next time I visited with her I noticed the complete change in magazines on her table. Sex IS everywhere. No wonder this is so complicated and hard to sort out.

 

True, the world isn't changing for us, we need to grow and be able to deal with it. In time things affect us differently. We get stronger and our mind change, being more able to handle things and we see things differently as well. Getting past the super sensitive stage takes time, awareness and work.

 

It doesn't matter so much whether or not you see sexual imagery, it matters that you do not seek it out. As you mentioned, it's everywhere. Ideally, it does not phase you and you move on from it.

 

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If a woman is dressed in an evocative fashion, look away, even if you have no intention to lust or be stimulated by looking at them. Don't try to objectively look upon a woman who is presenting themselves inappropriately as though you won't be effected, you will eventually if you don't learn to look away. It's great that in some contexts you don't perceive them with lust, but if they are attempting to elicit a sexual response in how they present themselves don't perceive them at all. If you have a rule that tells you that you can look at them you will eventually fall.

 

I believe that all the topic of avoiding what is out there or not, is quite subjective. For me for example, I am not avoiding looking at beautiful girls if I want. But I would say that I won't do it too much. I do it on medium amount. Regarding the tv, well when there is a movie with too much sex related stuff involved I start to stop watching it, because it brings me backwards to where I was. So basically the key word is balance.

 

I don't say avoid looking at them unless they are dressed evocatively, inappropriately. For instance an image in your browser comes on, look away, scroll away, browse away from the image because it is designed to produce lust. A normal modest looking woman is fine in real life. They should be rewarded with our attention - the other are pandering to male lust and must be penalized with rejection. Women in real life rarely present an issue for me, it's the ones that assault my senses online.