Hardmode made me realize something

Congrats on the streak bro. I believe i am going through the flatline and even though sexual urges have been kept at bay but lot of emotions are playing up. Funny thing is even though i am sad not my usual happy self but still i am completing the tasks and have been functioning on near 70 - 90 %. I would love to know that about flatlines, if they are part and parcel of the game forever or after a certain point of time it goes away completely.

 

I've been in flatline along w/ withdrawals(both physical &mental) since week 2 and I'm on week 15. Recently I've started feeling better mentally. However I go jogging in the morning, a lot of sleep and cold shower after.

 

Great, man! Porn makes you suppress your feelings because that's exactly why people watch it. They have an underlying issue which causes inner pain and instead of sorting it out in the longer term, they rather put it "under the carpet" in short term.

Then the feelings are becoming more and more unbearable and that's why they need more and more porn and masturbation. Then nofap is difficult as the feelings are really suppressed under very high pressure and it takes a huge courage to deal with them slowly and effectively while experiencing pain and urges to fap.

 

Does it get easier? I'm on day 11 of no porn and no masturbation. I've been having sex but only with casual hookups. Do the urges subside? Does the desire to masturbate subside? I'm afraid to give up casual sex because I don't know if I can go without ejaculating. I fear the relapse.

 

Thanks for this buddy. This community really looks after each other without any expectation in return.

 

Hi @YoungBaller23 how old are you ? When did you started ? Can you give us some backgrounds ?

 

Man the first 2 weeks are the worst..it seemed forever adn days seemed to never end. After the first 2 weeks you find yourself doing things ,socializing taking care of yourself and people aroudn you and before you know it days go by without you counting your NOFAP days. Theres always going to be that ocasional moment when you lay in bed at night and look at the laptop and the craving comes. Im on hardmode,after so many years of PMO,decades I know that stopping porn alone wont do it for me.I need to reset my penis heath and my mental health. I advice everybody to do at least 1 month on hardmode or the 3 month reboot without MO of any kind,only the real thin and then you can maybe incorporate real sexual encounters or MO without porn not more than on once a week. I think its generally accepted that if you cant beat Masturbation it should be kept to once a week max.Thats the time your body needs to recover,ay more than that will lead to ED in th elong term

 

I think I'm going to do Hard mode next month. I want to make it to a month on normal mode first.

 

I completly agree with the always be the nice guy.
If you ask me...I think many of us believe in Jesus. And its one of the reasons that make us feel nasty and dirty consuming porn and ashamed.And probably one of the reasons why we were able to even consider NOFAp an option and research on it. many people dont even give NOFAP a chance,
1 because they are addicted and rather than confront that adiction they stay in denial,
2 because they dont have the information of its effects or
3 they lack the religious or moral background that leads them to even questioning PMO in the first place.
With that said,Jesus teachings are great,and its great be able to turn the other cheek. But I think many of us are disguising our weakness and lack of testosterone or selfconfidence behing the"Im a good person who avoids comflict" mantra?
I have to admit it myself.I walk in the street,and Im very polite and always let people go first through doors and I always lean myself to the side in a hall...and yes its true IM an educated good person but Im also weak lacking confidence and afraid of people,I hate confrontation cause I feel weak. and our inability to socialize and look in the eye is weakness not being nice.
I think we all have to start to be honest with ourselves cause if we dont and we disguise our lack of confidence manhood and will power caused by PMO behind religion then we are far from recovery.
Dont you ever feel very stron and confident in yourself after lifting heavy weights in the gym? amost agressive? Thats the peak testosterone weight training causes,and thats what we lack on a daily basis due to PMO.
so yes we are WEAK due to PMO itself and the mild depression PIED causes,always letting others win and many times not because we really want them to but because we are not strong enough to defend our interests.We are not strong enough to chase that girl or go the job interview or defend your point of view in a pubic conversation.

 

Yes man Hard mode requires ALOT of mental effort man Im not gonna lie...I dont know how many attepmts at NOFAP youve had in the past but hardmode is a PITA.Unless you are truly focus and motivated you wont make it to a month.Im at 22 days and yes I look back and say WOW I cant believe Im here...but it has not been easy at all