[60-CHALLENGE] THE SIXTY DAYS CHALLENGE !

We have all relapsed, I believe it is part of the process, because you need to remember how you feel after you relapse. When I relapsed I realized it wasn't as good as I remembered and how bad I felt for not doing what I had committed to do. There is nothing wrong with relapsing, it is what you do afterwards that matters. Come out of it stronger and more determined. You will make it. We are all here for the same reason and to support each other.

 

Day 16 complete and feeling good. We can all do this, some may take a scenic route and take longer to get there but we can all achieve this challenge. Good luck and congrats to all those that made it another day.

 

Day 26

 

Day 1/60 complete.

 

Please help me men
Its Day 38 and I am losing it 2nd time.
How to I control it ?

 

GET OUTSIDE NOW. Get in public. Quick. You need to step away from anywhere private. Do some exercise. Put your phone away. Turn it off. Anything just stay away from anything to induce sexual feelings.

 

Keep yourself busy, be around friends and other people, join a gym or take some classes. Need to stay away from your computer and smart phone or anything that could be connected to porn. It is not easy but you already made it through 37 days, that is a great start. You can do this. One day at a time.

 

1/60

 

Day 2/60 we really out here! It’s just the beginning

 

Day 3

 

Back to 0 guys. I feel like if I could just get a good week under my belt I'd have the traction to go the distance.

 

8/60

 

Just take it one day at a time, we have all relapsed. This is a tough process but the results are well worth it. You can do it, I have faith in you.

 

Day 17 down and working on 18 today.

 

I’m not sure if I agree with what you are saying. On one hand I see absolutely no point in shaming people who relapse. We are here to support each other, first and foremost. So that far I’m with you. But, there’s a but here, on the other hand: You’re saying relapsing is part of the progress, that it is nothing wrong with relapsing (only matters what come after). If I see this message everyday on nofap, this will eventually make me say to myself “relapsing isn’t such a big deal, a quickie won’t hurt that much, everyone has them now and then”. In a moment of weakness it would be very easy for me to give in to that.

We need to be straight here: to reach sobriety, no matter what your goal or purpose is, you must overcome the urges, you must put them behind you, not give in to them. You need to put up boundaries for yourself. Fapping isn’t an option, period! Do your homework, if you have a relapse, make sure you take actions against the same mistake happening again. You have your goal and reasons in one hand. You have PMO in the other hand. Which one will it be? It’s a trade, you can’t have both.

Best of wishes to everyone out there, good luck on your journey!

 

I couldn't have said it better myself. I totally agree with you.

Relapsing is not an option and I don't consider relapse as a part of the process. I joined this forum because I really had to do something about my behaviour. I didn't have any control over my actions and several hours a day could easily fly away. I really hate my old habits, even though this is nothing I think about at all. The only thing I think about is how much I love my new self and that I'm happy I did something about myself when I still have many years left to live (I'm 35). I have developed my discipline and willpower with a great amount to a level I have never been on before. In short: I am not going to relapse again, ever.

As a porn consumer for 25 years I've had my ups and downs. The amount of time I could spend on P followed somewhat a sawtooth like curve: It started light with some non-nude pics, going over to nude-pics, then soft porn, hardcore, even more hardcore and so on. After some time I could spend several hours a day on the most extreme stuff. As I went down the rabbit hole, depression grew alongside until a point where I felt I couldn't continue and finally the regret inside me managed to break my pattern. So I would have a break until the regret and depression went away and then it all started over again.

With that in mind, there is no such thing as a minor relapse. A relapse isn't part of a recovery process. No no, a relapse would be like the worst thing I could do to myself since that would mean I'm just in the beginning of my cycle again and relapses will continue until the regret will break me out at which point I have disrupted my whole life. The longer my streak, the longer it would take before I would stop. A relapse would hurt so bad and it would be very hard to rise up. Without a relapse, my counter keeps ticking and this motivates me to continue my life without P. If I would relapse however, I would have to reset my counter and suddenly I have no counter to fight for. My mind would tell me now is a really good time to relapse one more time since my counter is close to zero anyway.

With that said, a relapse isn't a minor thing that is easy to just shake off and continue as nothing had happened, it is a major thing that disrupts the willpower and discipline with a great amount. Another way of saying it: a relapse is a part of ones former self. If one really wants to change his or her life, one must be committed to never relapse again.

In four days it will be six months since I joined this forum. It will also be six months since I started my streak and it will be six months since I started with only cold showers. Joining this forum has been the single best decision I've done the last 25.5 years This forum helps me so much to remind myself where I don't want to be and how important it is that I continue to fight. Nowadays, the fight isn't about giving in to urges, the fight is all about perseverance: I must not think I am already cured and that I can forget about my former self. I am still addicted to porn and I need to hold my guard up. If guard falls down, I will fall down the rabbit hole again. I need to continue strengthen my discipline and willpower. I need to continue to fighting for getting a better life. And so do you! The single most important thing to stop porn addiction is to focus all your energy on other things. Don't try to think about staying away from porn, instead try think about staying on your new track. Regardless if you think about porn or about not giving in to porn, you are still thinking about porn and so you give energy to porn. So in order to focus all your energy on other things, think about your other things all the time. If some thoughts flies into your head, go and have a cold shower as fast as you can. Remember that you need to replace your time you spend on P with something else. For example, I am working out instead of giving in to P and that works for me.

Keep fighting my great souls! You all can do this! You are the best! The sooner you take care of your addiction the more years you will have left to live a wonderful life!!

 

Day 27

 

19/60

 

Guys I screwed up last night. I made it 16 days but now have to start over again. Problem is I had a few drinks which led to unwise decisions. Worst of all I slipped into the real toxic fetish stuff that is very self-destructive to be involved with in any way.

Pretty bummed out that I even went there again - I feel sickened by it now and want nothing more to do with it. This feeling makes me much more aware I need a serious reboot though, so I'll use that for motivation. Day 0.

 

Day 3/60 I’m at work right now and I’m feeling manly and empowered af! I can’t wait for the sexual energy to transmute and for the minerals to build!! I can already feel the energy