Major Cravings

Really good question. I would like to hear the thoughts of more experienced members as I have had similar experiences through my progress. I also kept thinking about real people rather than porn people.

 

First off stay away from alcohol and and any type of food or supplement that may have an intoxicating effect in you.

Secondly, urges tend to snowball, meaning you may find yourself waking up every night masturbating or fantasizing after it first occured (because of psychological (seeing someone you like) or physical triggers (alcohol or other intoxicating substances)). Therefore it is important to be aware of what your triggers are exactly, so that you can recognize and avoid them in the future. That doesn't mean you have to avoid whoever you find attractive, but you'll need to learn strategies to change your thoughts around these people. For instance, you may want to ask yourself if you're masturbating/fantasizing to the thought of that person at night because you like them for who they are (love), or because you are objectifying them (lust)? Chances are you're fantasizing over different people in your life and it's therefore lust. To deal with lust you will need to raise your own awareness of the fact that you're objectifying that person and that sex is meant to take place in real-life, loving relationships. So this could be something to meditate about in order to increase your self control. Because eventually that's what women find attractive in a man.

 

I would suggest just get out of the house, maybe the gym, go for walk put your headphones in listen to music, maybe visit friends/family just keep busy, my most likely time to slip up is when I'm lonely, bored have to much time on my hands. im thinking of taking up hobbies to reduce this likelihood of failure. I think keeping busy is paramount to potentially succeeding in this journey. I wish u all the best.