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Uncontrollable excessive masturbation

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by ThePMOdestroyer, Nov 24, 2018.

  1. Off recently I have been masturbating uncontrollably 3 to 5 times a day.
    I just couldnt gather will to say no.

    And at the end of all this I feel devoid of life conpletely used up.

    This cycle repeating since a month .

    Cant help myself out
     
  2. Ra's Al Ghul

    Ra's Al Ghul Fapstronaut

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    Can you take even a 24 hour timeout?
     
  3. tiredofdoingthis

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    Hang in there and keep trying.
     
  4. As of past few days I cant but I have been averaging streaks of 3 days to 7 days for longbtime longtime until last month.

    My best streak was 44 days and I have reached nowhere close to it since 10 months
     
  5. tiredofdoingthis

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    My guess is that something has you upset or very stressed. You have managed to do much better than I have. About 12 days is as far as I have gotten. What's going on in your life that is distressing you or causing you the need to escape?
     
  6. I dont feel like handling anything consciously in my life right now , my mom thinks I will discard my parents once I start my job(I wont just that this PMO has fucked up my mind stability completely so im reacting in anger evertime im bossed around) , I feel that I am not given the freedom I need to do things I want without being judged by parents, I havent figured out my purpose yet, no gf , Always feeling unloved , People praise me for my achievements in studies but I still feel alone , insecure that one day these people shall attack me for my smallest mistake.
    I have my exams going on and I am not able to study because of PMO

    Im feeling tired of the world and losing hope everyday
     
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  7. tiredofdoingthis

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    Well, you have figured out why you can't control PMO. You have all these things swirling in your life and you don't want to have to deal with it. I completely understand. I think the problem is PMO tends to intensify problems after you are through the O. I get the anger and insecurity. I freaked out when I had to deal with exams when I was in school. Sounds like you do well in school. I get the no gf and feeling unloved part as well. My parents were very big on achievements and not freely giving of their love in general. As for your purpose, it sounds like you are a little early in life right now to decide that. You can't do everything at once. So, if PMO is the biggest issue, try to ease off of that. Find the time you need to study. Don't get caught up in what your parents are saying. Take a breath. You're going to be alright. It makes sense that you are having a hard time controlling PMO. If I were where you are at the moment, I would want to completely run away from it all. That is what PMO has always been for me, and escape.
     
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  8. Yes I feel exactly like this. Overwhelmed. On top of that I have frustration of being in financially broke family, we dont even get enough for our visit to doctor in a month. Its very depressing situation and pmo looks easy way out but it is not a way out, its way into more depths of depression.

    I have lot of issues to deal and I dont know how should I begin .
    Im thankful to you for helping me out here .
     
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  9. countitjoy5

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    How do you know you can't help yourself or gather the will to say no? Others here on the forum are no different than you and we have learned to take responsibility and say no. How are you any different?
     
  10. Estel

    Estel Fapstronaut

    Where do you PMO. When do you PMO. What comes before you PMO.
    Tell us more. You have to think about this and prepare. Is it in your bedroom? is it on the couch? is it on the pc/laptop/phone? What is a trigger for the "Let's just check a bit of porn" thought ?
    There are many steps to take to overcome this. But stop doubting, you can overcome this.
     
  11. I try countless times to say no to my desires and they just take over my mind and im doing stuff I dont want to do
     
  12. Where: Near study table on the chair
    WHEN: no one is at home and bored or depressed or sometimes no reason at all.
    How:I say "dont do this , stay away" Immediately my mind throws the video of good time i had during PMO and my hands have their own mind and do the job
    Device: Any device with internet connection.
     
  13. countitjoy5

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    That is because you have built your desire into a behemoth by indulging it so intensely. You chose to create this Frankenstein and you can choose to put an end to it.

    You made it into a monster but you still have free will to say no.

    The way you kill the desire is by making a firm decision that you do not want it in your life anymore (because presently you still do want it, intensely) and begin the reboot process to weaken the desire to a manageable level.

    BTW, asking God to forgive you for sexual sin will loosen your chains as well. You are a slave to sin and Jesus died so you can be set free. Even if you don't want the gospel you still have within you the ability to say no and to put this thing away. If you want to.
     
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  14. No offence to any religion but I dont believe those things.

    Yes I created a frankenstein myself to kill me and I still have the power to say no. HOWEVER frankenstein wont listen to my meek No .

    I dont know why I need it in my life.I never got the answer.
    If I didnt need it, it would have been easier to kick it out right. Since I cant kick it out and if I manage to kick it out somehow it returns even stronger (I dont know and dont underwtand why I need it)
     
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  15. Estel

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    Hey man. You're not entirely at fault. Your brain is. It is not ONLY a matter of saying a firm No. It's a bit more than that. You're brain has built a strong almost reflex response to the stimuli of porn. You can break free and réparé THIS, but it is not easy. Talk to me in private man. Let's exchange for a few moment if you want.
     
  16. tiredofdoingthis

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    Hey, feel free to private message me. I don't have near all the answers, but I think I understand where you are. Just keep in mind, you can't fix everything at once. Try to start by diminishing how often you are turning to PMO, even if you have to say only once or twice a day. Give yourself a starting point.
     
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