Day 28 of my PMO freedom

1. I want a woman and realized porn essentially moves me farther away from my goal.
2. Life's short and you only get so many opportunities, everytime you fap you push your goals back another week/month/year
3. Sexual desire will come back. It feels better to delay gratification than to alleviate a non-vital urge that will only come back.
4. I know that if I fap the moment after I will feel worse. The short-term pleasure is so short it's not worth it. I feel guilt that I failed myself. At a certain point that potential guilt can outweigh any potential pleasure.
5. I just imagine how gratifying it will be when I finally get my shit together and get a good woman. That far outweighs the momentary happiness.

In summary it moves me away from my life goals, not toward it. It's like once you're over it, you're over it. Which in itself is a relief. So much more time and energy to do other things. Being free from porn is in a way liberating because so many people out there are addicted it's gratifying. No my life isn't perfect, got lots to work on, but atleast I got that one demon off my back for good.

 

Goals are unique to each of us but Robotnickx I like yours a lot... they also work for me

 

Thanks for sharing. I'm in a similar place with my reboot. However, I am seeing someone in 1-on-1 situations and we may start dating soon to pursue marriage. She has been a tremendous encouragement to me in my pursuit of purity. I am a believer so I've found lots of encouragement in scriptures that I hold close to my heart and pray and meditate on them daily.

1. "Flea youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, peace, and love alongside those that call upon the Lord from a pure heart." 2 Timothy 2:22
2. "For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But whoever does not have them is nearsighted and blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past sins." 2 Peter 1:5-9

Again, thanks for sharing, and I'm glad you have found peace in your struggle. I know exactly what you are going through. As of writing this response, I'm 38 days into my reboot. I fully expect to require a full year to reboot. I went hard on PMO for 8-10 years, and supplemented that with heavy marijuana usage and moderate alcohol usage. Getting sober is the first step to beginning your real fight. The fight that you will be in for the rest of your life. That fight is for your heart and your soul.