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Trial and error

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Sharmel28, Nov 24, 2018.

  1. Nov 24, 2018 #1
    Sharmel28

    Sharmel28 New Fapstronaut

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    “Only those who are patient shall receive their rewards in full, without reckoning.” (Az-Zumar 39:10).

    I am 28 years old, I am an etnic muslim. I grow up in the environment different in culture and traditions from my native country. So, there was not much religion in my life at first. In early stages of my life I have done many things that stoped me from becoming a balanced and a productive person. Environment did play a role.(bad influence, you know friends who smoke, drink, do drugs etc).

    I worked my ass to fix those mistakes and got rid of those self destructing habits. Nowadays, I practice Islam (pray, ramadan, zakat etc). Its not ideal but I am trying to become better. I try to avoid bad companies (friends using drugs, smoking etc). I do BJJ (brazilian jiujitsu). I was able to quit smoking and drinking. Spend less time on social media, watch less TV. I try to eat healthy, oh and I also stop lying to my mom. And yes, it means I still lie to strangers but its soft I like to introduce myself to people as a profesional athlete; mostly to cab drivers. Though, I am trying to cut it out as well. Not the dialogues, cab drivers do have interesting stories to share (try it out).

    But.

    Beside nose-picking (someday I will get this one too). I was never able to quit masturbating and watching porn. I think I have started around 15-16. I tried to quite couple times. The longest I was without POM session, 5 days. Lately, my PMO sessions increased in time. The content became more violent and weird. Things that disgusted me before became normal. Like yesterday, I have spent 2 hours just watching some crazy asian porn, floged the dolphin and went to sleep; felt shity because 2 hours of my life wasted. Whats even worse, I feel guilt because I am not fullfiling my role as a religious person.

    I hope that my other achievements in life will help me in dealing with this. I know its going to be hard but with God's help, patience and this newly found community I will get rid of this habit.

    Peace.
     
    Sharmel28, Nov 24, 2018
    Sharmel28, Nov 24, 2018
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  2. Nov 24, 2018 #2
    Buzz Rees

    Buzz Rees Fapstronaut

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    Man! You already have a weapon on your side that many don't. Faith. You have God on your side. It sounds like you're motivated. Now it's all about finding the way. Make it easier for yourself. Change your habits. Get out of the house. Be around people. Tire yourself out with work out an exercise. Don't spend time online before bedtime, if that's a trigger. Make this possible for yourself. Inshallah, you'll find the strength to resist eventually. It builds up, once you do, too. Quitting porn will, after a while, give you a boost of energy and self confidence, which you can feed back into the effort and into improving your life.

    Welcome, get strong, and stay strong. It's about doing it. Actually doing it. Not hoping, not wanting to, not contemplating it. This is about real action, for a real betterment in life. There's no time like right now. Don't postpone it, don't delay it, don't let any more poison in. Stay clear. Start a journal, keep an eye on your counter... do it. You'll get there.
     
    Buzz Rees, Nov 24, 2018
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  3. Nov 27, 2018 #3
    nakalaku

    nakalaku Fapstronaut

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    Watching porn & masturbating will cause your brain to be filled with high dose of dopamine, just like drugs. But even more severe.

    PMO addiction is a brain disease.
    So that's why it is difficult to quit this habit as your brain will crave more of this PMO induced dopamine to you.

    The only solution is abstaining from PMO.
    By abstaining, the dopamine level in your brain will be slowly washed away and your brain will adapt to the new lower dose of dopamine.

    It takes time but insyaaLlah someday you will feel less stressed from this craving when the brain have the normal dose of dopamine in its everyday life.

    Just be sure to pray to Allah so that He will make your journey easy for you. I am a muslim too so insyaaLlah i will pray for you.

    That's all my words.
    Good luck in your life.
    This one is also a jihad fisabiliLlah for you.
    If we die while abstaining, we die as a matyr (syaheed). InsyaaLlah.

    Good day,
    And salam from asia.
     
    nakalaku, Nov 27, 2018
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  4. Dec 1, 2018 #4
    Sharmel28

    Sharmel28 New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you guys for the support! It was always difficult to share such things offline, especially with close ones; afraid of being judged by them.

    I have been NoFAP already 7 days. Its 2 days more than I used to abstain. Inshalah I will see more development.

    May God make your journey easy, as well.
     
    Sharmel28, Dec 1, 2018
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