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Need Help! Triggered by female roommate

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by ras-tanura, Nov 27, 2018.

  1. ras-tanura

    ras-tanura Fapstronaut

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    Every time I look at my female roommate, I am instantly reminded by the porn I used to watch; she's very triggering without her talking or acting provocatively. It's mostly the fact that she looks like many of these actresses. I can't just hide from her, she's in my apartment with a 3rd guy roommate.

    What do I do? I'm taking this pretty seriously, I don't wanna relapse by fantasizing about her whenever she smiles or talks to me. HELP!
     
  2. You are thirty. So I think it's better for you to take the Bull by the horns. That's approach her, and tell her what you feel. Or maybe change your situation, get some place else. What you need is direct action in either direction.
     
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  3. Nick1918

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    Try and bonk her if she says no she will not be as attractive .
     
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  4. Try to enjoy having her around but occupy yourself with your goals and try to just accept how you feel when you are around her dont fight it. Be carefree. Picture her like a flower, you can enjoy looking at her and being around her but don't rip her out of the ground and try to have it to yourself. Just breathe maybe try meditation and accept how you feel in the moment. Exercise just relax and enjoy your life. Having a female roommate is cool. You are in control of if you pmo or not.
     
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  5. I think you should assess the situation: Is it a good idea to approach her to ask for sexual favours or not? If not, you either have to strive to avoid her or move house.
     
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  6. ras-tanura

    ras-tanura Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for this, i'm on it!

    I'm sure the problem is that after 16 years of PMO, one becomes more possessive. What you're saying makes sense because I used to be in relationships and I would still want to own these other girls. The solution isn't to approach more of them, but rather to relax from these thoughts.

    That pretty much brings these irrational thoughts into the light. A definite no for me.
     
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  7. Being possessive is something that I defiantly work on eliminating. it was bad for me in the past. What I told you is something I heard the other day in an audio program and it was awesome.
     
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  8. you want to "own these other girls" ?!? You seriously need to work on your perception of and relationship to women, mate! This is pretty bad!!!
     
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