Almost a month, behavioural issues?

OK, it's almost been a month since I last had a proper fap (somewhere in the first week of January).

Some things I have noticed:

Absolutely no looking at P sites but I have had some issues with edging. Read something like the Daily Mail website and there is plenty of stimulus there. Even a video with someone hot in can cause some urges. I remember the last time I tried to give up I convinced myself that softcore only would be OK, but it doesn't work.

In a long-term relationship so I have been doing the hardcore mode. Have had sex every weekend with O. Earlier on in the month I came clean and told her about the giving up. But since then, I have talked about it quite a bit, to a point where she pointed it out, I had mentioned it three nights in a week. (I had to lie about my previous porn use, saying I was an irregular user so she probably thinks it's not a big thing for me).

I've also spoken about sex as well, we had a good in-depth conversation one night. But another night, she suddenly said that I should just relapse as it would be good for me as I keep on talking about it. I'm inclined to put this down to women being women and whinging about stuff, but I am concerned I'm having way too many dirty thoughts even though I've come off it.