Very important questions ,, please answer me if you know the good answer

Hey, I write down, what I am thinking. Let me ask you how many days do nofap (longest break without masturbating)? If it is more then 20-30 days you probably experienced some positiv changing I am sure. 2. question how old are you? It is important because in younger age 15-20 the sexual urge is very irregular and hard to control.

I think (and I am experiencing) if u start nofap and do not masturbate you will fell the benefits. One of this benefit, that you social ability will be come out. U will be better and better day by day with NoFap. You will not notice the change immediately, you will be in some situation and your body will use natural act and u will not feel that obstacle in your mind. U will be cool any situation etc.

Answering your question no.. it is not necessary to be social. You will be social automatically by your mind. It is an affect of nofap. But is not better to be social then not to be? And you do not to do nothing else, just let this fkung evil porn off ( I know it is hard, but as hard as this, the benefits will be as amazing). You worry about do not find a good partner, but hell, who want to know you, if you are a prisoner of an evil addict?! You are close in your body, you are a material body, nothing, with 0 power (sorry if I use tough words, but I want to convince you). I think this is as disgusting then not shower for a month and smell like a rat or something similar. And please do not misunderstand me I had the same addiction then you, and I despised myself. Other benefit of nofap your mind will radiate the inside power from yourself, because when u fapping your power goes away in sperm form (this is not scientific only my opinion). So when u hold this energy in your body it is utilized. The girls will definitely notice this radiation, because in their deep mind they looking for a strong independent (independent of porn, not dependent of it) radiant man. Trust me.

What should we do, when after 3 month feel strong urge? I do not know, my longest brake so far is 39 days. My only advice go to that fking coldest shower at least 1 minute. Repeat it until you hate all of masturbating at porn. One of forum mate wrote, that if you replace masturbating with cold shower your brain will associate from urge the cold shower. I think this explanation works.

Other thing. Lot of guys who are more experienced then me wrote, that only nofap is not enough. We have to find the things that live alive us. I mean sport, music, study of language etc. arts, social things. If I wake up morning and I have plans, serious plans my brain will focus my power, and if my brain focus, my body also connect to my brain. All in all, nofap+act, do not waste time any s hit.

I have a theory of emotional overloading. Take girls. They have month circle, when their body remove all the negative things out of their body. It is a natural process. Now take boys/men we have wet dreams ( I have had not so far :L) and a lot of sexual thought from girls. I think our man body have to ejaculate some times, if we do not take advantage of inside power. But if we over masturbate it kill our self-spiritual thing. Take advantage of inside power or cold shower. One remark: sometimes it is useful if we cry, because this way we also ease our overloading. Watch sad videos or similar. The main point that drop tears.

Last and important: immediately stop watching porn. it is harm it is bad it is evil. Ruin you full body all spiritual and all mental and all physical. But if you fail/relapse do not give up and try to modify your brain. First steps are difficult, later will be difficult but absolutely worth it...

 

There are no fast and best solution available. Healing is a long process. But here is my take:

I recently recommended a book in another post.
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...-the-superior-man-book-recommendation.204481/

A quick quote:
"You can choose to be celibate forever and live a disconnected, minimal life. If you want a great life, you will have to deal with women and their drama. Because the world is all about abundance, and abundance is a feminine energy. If you have think there are no women coming into you life, you have issues with receiving, thus disconnected from the feminine and also your masculine, cause you are depolarized and unable to attract the opposite."

see answer for questions 4.

trauma & fears deep within us are the gifts awaiting you to discover. of course you can ignore them for your life but you will always live in the darker side.

This is the question you have to ask yourself, as my truth is not your truth.
If you have a goal that you believe is important, and lacking motivation, why don't you try it until 180 days to make a conclusion?

 

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/
first of all, here you can find a lot of information about quiting porn. hope it helps.

notably, relapse is common, and there's no need to get frustrated about relapse. just start again after that. also, in my opinion, there may be no "destination", quiting porn may be a life-long journey, it require us to set up a healthy life-style immune to porn. but there's no 100% garantee, for example, even the healthies person in this earth can not garentee that s/he would never get sick. what we can do is to make it less and less impossible to relapse, through quiting porn, forming a good routine, developing good habits and so on.

from my opinion, no.
but quiting porn may make you enjoy communicating with others. for me, quiting porn made me more confident. you may find friends on this forum, too! you already have many experience of quiting porn, you can share them with us. it's highly welcome

first of all, you're so great. it's a great achievement to abstain from porn for 3 month!
maybe you can name this phenomenon first. I also get less motivated when I reach my 70d. maybe there is others who have the same problem. then think of some method for it, for example, check in daily, read something in this forum, set another 3 month's goal and start over, etc. when you're near your 3 month, prepare for this phenomenon, once you find you're tired, use your method to get yourself motivated again.

yes.
many babies hadn't get proper care and love before the age 5, and when they grow up, they become less confident and less content (they have no proper education of know how to take care of their emotions, they may be emotionally abused), and it seems like they always seek for something to fill their 'empty' heart, such as me. it is expecially the case of those who have trauma, such as PTSD.
this may be an possible explaination of why some people would get addicted to porn or something else more easily then average people. porn and orgasm produce dopamine, it make you feel relaxed and connected, resambles the feeling of a baby being protected in its mother's uterine. for me, porn addiction may be seen as a signal of the need of love, or the need of develop a better relationship with our inner child.

maybe you can evaluate whether masturbation is important in your problem.
for me, if I quit using porn, masturbation is no longer a big problem anymore, for most of the time I rely on porn to masturbate. without porn I natrually get away of 95% of the arousal stimuli, so I abstain from pron strickly and immediatly, but I don't have strick rule for masturbation.
if M made up much of your problem, my suggestion is to quit it together with porn. you can start from the 7d challenge and even 3day challenge. keep motivated and prepare for hardships, have the courage to quit it forever but don't get downhearted once relapse for it is common.

 

Solution is easy. Are you ready? One day at a time. Wake up every day and decide that you are not going to watch porn and masterbate today. Visit this website and post your feelings every day for 90 days if you want to. There are plenty of people here that will listen and respond. You have to want it though. Don't go in half way. Sack up and quit. And we will all get behind you. Have a great rest of your day!