I failed again

dont worry. start a new journey and try to beat your best streak. dont give up!

good luck.

 

Perhaps it's best to give yourself a timeframe, like don't seek any romantic relationships as of yet. You're trying to avoid a stressor and so get rid of those things while you're on that phase so as to focus on your aim of hitting more than 70 days. You've already done that and I know that you can absolutely do that again!

 

I understand this. I failed today. It is always a cascade of actions. I was feeling lonely (as the boy I've been dating on/off for 2 years has been incommunicado recently due to illness) so I started looking at MLP gay horse cartoons on tumblr to cheer me up. Then it triggers more explicit stuff like sexting. And so on. BAH!

I'm glad my head is clearly for it, but I really dislike that manic phase of frustration that comes from being artificially aroused through edging/sexting whatever and being unable to step back from that.

 

Fran, I used to be a very devout, "orthodox" Catholic, but I am not any longer. In my Catholic days, I couldn't shake the habit of masturbation. Even with share groups, prayer groups, and confession, I was masturbating multiple times a week, and was distraught about each one.

Even though I'm not Catholic now, and I don't get stressed aver any one time I masturbate (I don't think of myself in a state of "sin"), I still agree that it's a lousy habit. What's helping me now is a girlfriend who demands that I don't play with my wiener. She can tell if I have been doing it, too...she's no dummy.

Perhaps ironically, whether you are Catholic or a non-believer, there are huge benefits to your relationships with ones you love - especially your exclusive lover - if you stop masturbation and porn.

I don't know how to tell you that any one time you masturbate is no big deal, because I assume you believe it is offensive to God. But it's no big deal....as long as you keep trying to get away from it for a longer time next time. I don't men to be glib about your faith, but you need a strategy where you cut yourself a little slack and don't freak over each time you "fall". When I was Catholic, I did hear many people say that sins against charity are a much more serious than those against chastity. I think there's something to that.

Good luck.

 

tumblers the worst! i have account that i created specifically for FAPing but I'm not ready to get rid of it, theres over 20 different blogs I've created over a period of 2 years for each genre P. Its only a click away, and i have the app on my phone so as a knee jerk reaction i turn to my phone or my computer and i just scroll for hours through all the photos- it puts me on this high that makes me feel terribly guilty and scared- idk if that has anything to do with your post but the word tumblr triggered me

 

You are not ready to get rid of 20 different porn blogs!

It's tough to let go, but you must, to escape this addiction!

 

Fran, I'm a catholic myself, and I think ax345 had alot of good insight. But its still really good to go to confession. What I've learned over the years is that it never helps to beat yourself up, just say an act of contrition right away, and get to confession before the next time you go to mass. I think its a worse sin to consider yourself hopeless or a lost cause, and besides that, I don't think just confession is enough to break the habit. When a person is sick, they need a doctor - and while confession heals the soul, pmo is a physical addiction, so that takes a physical remedy. It takes extra help, and thats why I'm such a huge advocate for this site. I was never able to fight the habit before I joined this site, but since I did, the support from the men and women who struggle along side me has really pushed me forward. And I'm here to support you as well. Stay in the fight and never give up! Don't think of failure as failure, but a chance to better yourself!