What about fantasies?

I am in the same boat as you and I understand your fears. Fantasies are real, but unlike reality..it is just that..it isn't reality, so you should have no problem eradicating fantasies from your life. Learn to harness and focus in on your reality. The best practice for this is most likely meditation but there isn't any scientific data to back that up. Like you, I struggle with fantasies which then leads to P and MO. Sadly I think this is going to take a while to get rid of the fantasy aspect in my mind. Our minds must be more powerful than what are pre-frontal lobes are telling us. We must really grow in the area of rewiring our brains to match our reality, not undercut it by looking at P or MOing.

Please be advised. The more you fantasize, the more your brain is NOT rewiring itself. I'm pretty sure there is good conclusive evidence on this..just watch the videos on yourbrainonporn.com What they basically say is that once you've look at all that P your mind is then desensitized and it's hard to conqueror those images stuck in your mind. Once again, the mind must be stronger than your brain. Keep at it! Keep going! Don't give up and my advice to you is if you find yourself fantasizing just stop and count to 10. Realize your reality and live in it.

 

I know how you feel. For me I've watched so much porn that i can't go anywhere without sexualizing someone. I even think that regular people i see on the street are people I've seen in P. My mind is constantly filled with obscene images anytime i close my eyes and i get a sensation from even the slightest imagination of P I've watched before. i don't know if that helps but i just related to part of your post

 

What I've heard thats helped me in the past with this, well, #1 its important to quit the porn. And sometimes thats the easy part, you can switch porn off, but you can't just switch off your mind. What you can do is accept or reject thoughts - whether good or bad. If you have a bad thought, you don't have to entertain that thought. If you see a beautiful girl, there are two options, to think about her lustfully, or to thank God for her beauty and then stop there. It doesn't have to be a thought that takes advantage of her. Its once we let those passing thoughts turn into something more or a fantasy that is the problem. Sexual thoughts for better or worse will never go away, because we are wired to have them. You just have to move forward, and keep doing your best in the things you like, and in the ways you want to be a good person for the world, rejecting the bad thoughts and accepting the good ones.

 

I agree, we can't help those unintentional thoughts, and as long as we don't intentionally dwell on the thought, its all we can do at that moment. Neither do we have to heavily bash ourselves for having those thoughts in the first place, as that only makes it harder for us to focus on reality. For me, I think the best way is lightly brush it off with a shake of the head, and refocus on reality.

 

I havne't been fantasizing as much but I'm having a hard time getting rid of them altogether because they're all based on things I can probably do. They're really just my plans for the future.

 

I've heard it said that sex addiction is harder than alcoholism because a lustaholic carries around a keg in his head. He can take a "hit" without even batting an eyelash.

The mind is a tricky place because I've got adult magazines and videos in my noggin from years ago, and when I see suggestive billboards and video clips, new ones are added to the mental library.

Fantasy's a tough one. In fantasy, I get to be the director of the video and that's a power rush. I can imagine things that haven't even been filmed yet and never could be.

It's a tough battle. We gotta hang together.