How do you get rid of sexual fantasies?

No one can really escape from fantasies, we're human, men, so it's just how it is. You can change how you deal with them or how to prevent them from escalating, since they can provoke feelings of loneliness, doubt, worthlessness, if the fantasy is unachievable. And the obvious ofc, fantasies lead to relapse.

 

This is true, however, I would say there are sexual things you can do that might have been a lust at one point but no longer are. For example I always wanted a threesome when I was married yes porn drove most of the kinky details of it. I’m divorced now did a year porn free and mostly free since. Recently, I had a threesome with my girlfriend and another girl. It was something we spoke about and I didn’t care either way. It came about and it was fun but not lust driven. It might happen again but I don’t care. I think I’m just in a better place now mentally. Stop the porn and those thoughts will too. Jealousy and feeling left out is not a healthy mind. I do think I’m a better sexual match with my girl now. I do think you should experience things maybe even a threesome but do it with a clean mind and healthy spirit.

 

Being more stable and not having to have something is a great feeling. Like something is nice but if you don't have it or do it, oh well.

 

Wait what? What's your story? You totally lost me with the kneeling/squatting/sitting bit, that an unfamiliar idiom or what? What's your point, bro? (P.S.: This is not an attack, I'm genuinely, non-sarcastically curious.)

 

When you abstain long enough you'r brain will restart and you'r old vanilla tastes will come back...

 

Even just some 30 days into no PM, sex feels better than I ever remember it feeling, keeping it up for a good fucking is a piece of cake and I actually found myself thinking "wow, pussy feels AMAZING" during sex today -- after years of obsessing and fantasising about almost everything else (face fucking/deepthroat, anal, all sorts of kinky stuff... You name it... statistically you'll probably guess right...) It's like I'm slowly re-learning what sex is all about, after years of neglecting that path and reinforcing pornographic images of extreme, unreasonable acts. I think the general principle that whatever you feed is what grows stronger applies.