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is it worth just giving up?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by GSM, Dec 20, 2018.

  1. GSM

    GSM Fapstronaut

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    Been addicted to porn since I was 12, im now 19 and have been trying to quit for 2 years, nothing has worked, Ive been having cold shower, go for walks, constantly try and distract my self, I have internet filters, but every time I have a urge, I manage to find a way to porn and I cant stop my self, maybe its just worth accepting the fact that I like porn
     
    Last edited: Dec 20, 2018
  2. SeavirMcKenna

    SeavirMcKenna Fapstronaut

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    (mostly) Everyone likes porn. I've been on nofap for about a year and always relapsed after 3/4 weeks. But everytime I try again, my streaks get longer. I don't know if I can reach the full 90 days this, but i'm gonna try, and keep trying, as should you. Tip: never touch your dingdong except for peeing and showering.
     
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  3. GSM

    GSM Fapstronaut

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    I appreciate what you have to say and I have made progress but im still failing which is ultimately making me depressed.
     
  4. Porn Free Wanderer

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    If you're constantly "failing" over and over again, it says you need to change your approach in order to quit porn successfully. It sounds like you're just focusing on the porn and trying to do as many days "clean" as you can without fixing anything else. Completely the wrong approach. After all, any time you're thinking about not watching porn, you're still thinking about porn.

    Why is it that you want to quit porn in the first place? Do you want to get a girlfriend? A job? Get yourself in better physical shape? Do better in school? Find your reason for wanting to quit porn and focus on that. For example, if your goal is to do better in school, take your books and head to a library and do some serious study. If you're trying to get fitter, get yourself to the gym and spend more time there (and don't bring your phone with you). If your goal is to get a girlfriend, get outside and talk to some girls, and practice your approach. If you don't know what you want from your life, then this is actually a bigger problem than porn addiction and you need to solve this first.

    Basically, you're going to have to become a different person to the one that fell into porn addiction in the first place if you want to erase that from your life. Find something that's important to you that is totally unrelated to porn and pursue that instead.
     
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  5. Of course everyone has to decide these things for themselves. There's no exact rule that applies to everyone.

    I used P for a long time in my life, and although it amounted to a lot of wasted time and missed opportunities, it wasn't really what I'd call a major problem. However, at some point I crossed into a much more self-destructive path, largely tied in my case to the proliferation of various kinds of graphic fetish P on the internet. When this happened, the pain of continuing down that road outweighed the meager "benefits" of what I'd gotten from P all those years. For me this was the change that compelled me to start taking this addiction, and possible recovery from it, much more seriously.

    Everyone has to gauge for themselves where they are and what they're willing to do if anything to change it. If you decide that P is a net negative in your life, then just keep trying. Learn from others what you can. Try new approaches. Work on other parts of your life, not just this one area. Setbacks happen, but the possibility of real, sustained change is always possible.
     

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