Femdom

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We all have our kinks and fetishes that make us slaves to porn and masturbation. You it is femdom, me it used to be women in showers, curly haired brunettes....and I am going to stop here before I relapse.... what you should do is get it out of your system till the M and P make you feel empty and you don't want to do it anymore. Afterwards, search yourself, find your flaws, weaknesses and reasons why you relapse. It takes some soul searching and you need to dig deep. In my case, porn and masturbation was motivated by loneliness, lack of self esteem, stress, anxiety, insecurity. When you find those dark flaws in you, change your perception and your habits. Replace the porn and masturbation, with reading books on subjects that interest you or will make you a better person. You can also hit the gym, practice a hobby that keeps your mind busy. Take baby steps, start with one day with no PMO, then two or longer if you can. I once accomplish 67 days free of PMO. You can do it man, but first you must dig deep inside you, take a good look at yourself in the mirror, see what you do not like and do what I mentioned above.

 

Femdom is one of my addictions also so I empathize, i haven’t figured out yet how to overcome it but I’m trying. Echo Woodcutter - I know my addiction is driven by loneliness, depression, anxiety, fear. And thinking those things are not okay. I think porn is a way of making them go away. For now my advice to myself is - they don’t have to go away. Accept them and feel them and explore them. Maybe they will change. Maybe not. I’m trying to be curious now rather than change myself into a cheery person that I think everyone will like. Thanks for your post. I relate.

 

Well I can tell you I put my search settings on safe search. That has helped me to no longer look at porn the last 4 days. If you put the settings on strict, it will block your porn and pics easily

 

Yes you can accept it and say it will not go away, for the desire never does go away, but we also have to believe we are not a slave to those desires either.

 

Also, the fear and loneliness and depression may not go away. I think part of my problem is that I believe I shouldn’t feel those things, that I am a lesser person if I do, and no one will like me, so I strive for ways to make them instantly go away (like porn).

 

Arkos, I know all too well about this fear, loneliness and depression. I had it in my twenties and still have those moments in my forties. There is no weakness to have such feelings, one should acknowledge them. But instead to use porn as a form of escapism, one can do things more creative such as read good books, practice a hobby, work out, get out of one's comfort zone, embrace new challenges, try new things, meet new people, etc.

 

This hit home for me. Thank you for saying that. "we also have to believe we are not a slave to those desires either." Good stuff. I too have a lot of weird fetish addictions that I'm starting to slowly let go of. Thanks for the inspiration!

 

We all do....Keep up the good work. 34 days shows a lot of strength and will