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Can the following methods/strategies cure my gay problem and change myself to heterosexual?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by AnmysUser18312, Dec 24, 2018.

Which of the following methods/strategies cure my gay problem and change myself to heterosexual?

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  1. AnmysUser18312

    AnmysUser18312 Fapstronaut

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    Please read (Related): https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...y-homosexuality-status-to-normal-back.203310/

    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...punishment-cause-induce-homosexuality.207026/

    The stories which show that I am gay are in the threads above. At the same time my type of "gay" is a bit unusual as it seems to be related to scarless skin, never getting beaten, sexual fantasies about corporal punishment actions such as beating/slapping/pinching (these are horny to me/makes me turn on), only attracted to boys same race as me (with flawless skin), only attracted to boys because "male" gender is naughty, etc. Due to the unusual characteristics of my type of "gay/homosexuality" sexual orientation, I suspect it may be influenced by factors such as early childhood experience or the environment I'm exposed. I don't know whether I was born gay or not. It has been like that for many years since 2010/2011 when I was 7/8 years old.

    I had been sexually fantasizing and masturbated so many times to myself, my own body parts (such as arms, hands and legs), photos of boys/teenagers/man (same race as me) so many times that I believe I trained my brain's sexual area to be only attracted to boys/these kind of stuff.

    I think the stuff I experienced above are also known as "fetishes".

    I feel quite sad to be in such situation as being gay/unable to get an erection when seeing girls means that I won't be able to have biological children. I don't want to adopt children as they are not "true" descendants of my own. I wish to have children to continue my family lineage. I have been thinking of several ways to try to overcome this "Gay/abnormal fetish" problem that I'm facing. Do you think the following methods/strategies will help to treat/cure my homosexuality and change me into heterosexual?

    My strategy to overcome this would be probably:
    (1) Can my gay problem be cured if I quit and avoid looking and avoid sexual arousal at photos of boy/men/myself/my own body parts but instead begin to watch pictures of woman porn online everyday and force my penis to erect towards those photos and train/force myself to be sexually aroused to women? Maybe this will rewire my brain plasticity and change my sexual orientation.


    (2) Search for pornography pictures/videos of girls/women online then force myself to be aroused and force my penis to get an erection. I think this will train my brain to become sexually attracted to women due to repeated sexual stimuli/arousal to women (by keep masturbating to them). DOES ANYONE THINKS THIS IS THE MOST EFFECTIVE AND LOGIC SOLUTION? I believe so since masturbation makes us addicted to it and increase our urge/sexual drive thus by repeated masturbation to women, it may change our sexual orientation. But I thought masturbation is a bad thing as it damages health, lose nutrient by ejaculation, etc. Does anyone support me to masturbate just for the sake of rewiring my sexual orientation?

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    ook/stare at my own body parts such as my arm, leg, etc. when having sex with a woman, since I get sexually aroused with body parts of a male (which is myself). This would make me get an erection. Is this a good idea?

    Does anyone agree with any of the solutions above?

    Which solution do you think will work?

    For (1), I have thought that if I abstain/stop/restrain myself from looking photos of boys/men and my own body parts for a long time and begin to search for photos of women and force my penis to get erect, will this eventually get rid of my homosexuality and change me to heterosexual and at the same time rewire my brain/train it to become sexually attracted to women? I'm not sure whether this goal is possible or not since my penis never automatically react when looking at girls before.

    For (2), the logic is my penis would get erect when looking at myself/my own body parts such as arms and legs, therefore if I can't get horny to women but still want to have biological children, I can just look at myself (my arms/legs) to make myself sexually aroused and get an erection during the sexual intercourse which makes it possible?

    For (3), I believe repeated training/instillation of sexual arousal/orgasm to women will rewire/reprogram my brain to be attracted to women instead of men. After keep repeating, my brain will think "oh, it's a girl, *turns horny and gets an erection*.

    ANOTHER SOLUTION: Can any of you teach me some knowledge/information (relating to sexual attraction) about how to be sexually aroused/attracted to girls/women? I believe my brain lacks this knowledge and teaching me such knowledge can help me to be able to be get "turned on" by women and thus curing my homosexuality.

    Hope you read the strategies I mentioned above and analyze whether any of them will work. Please tell me your opinions, especially on solution (2)-masturbating. I need them to help me make decision whether I should do so or not as I'm extremely scared of masturbating after quitting it for many months. I read that masturbation is one of the worst things, so many negative and ill effects. I'm so paranoid about masturbation right now that I feel like I will destroy/ruin my life forever and have permanent side effects to my life if I ever masturbate again. I'm quite a paranoid person since recently. Maybe my brain gets anxious easily nowadays.
     
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  2. Neither.

    Quit porn & masturbation, observe what your reactions are over a prolongued period.
    That’s what I am doing now.
    My journey might be slightly similar to yours, feel free to read my journal.
     
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  3. jetscooled

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    Hey,
    I dont think that true homosexuality can be cured. I think its clear to you that your problems with your sexual complusions and addiction is altering your sexual preference. This is commonly explained in several sex addiction texts. Once you have exposed yourself to a certain material that arouses you, you become desensitized to it and now need something else to stimulate you. THIS can take many many forms....anywhere from bdsm to multiple partners at once to altering your gender preference for a sexual partner and in very very bad circumstances, pedophilia and voyeurism. In short, over stimulating yourself has also desensitized you to things that would be a part of a normal healthy sexuality. My advice to you would be to simply stop asap. Easier said than done I know but you need to believe i your recovery journey and understand that many many men have had problems similar to yours and have restored their true sexuality by taking control of their addiction/compulsive behavior. I hope that cleared some things up for you. Best of luck to you in recovery
     
  4. I dont think your suggested solutions will do any good... you shouldnt forcefully make yourself feel or do something.

    If you want to change your orientation, I believe, instead of having to see having sex with ladies as 'a must'/a forced thing... try to see it as a present, a gift.

    Like wow... i can actually be intimate with this beautiful girl... we can enjoy each other. Take the mental pressure of, and have a 'thankful attitude' to the beauty of women. Dont see it as a must, see it as a gift :).

    Maybe some people find this a weird post, because they find homosexuality is not a disease, and that it cant be changed etc.
    Im not suggesting it is a disease, and everyone should live the life and be who they want to be :).
    But if one wants to change, i believe a more relaxed mindset is better, its all about the mindset in this regard. And well... if you go into homosexuality, dont beat yourself up over it. Take the pressure of, just do nofap, try to be a goos human and being kind to yourself.
     
  5. AnmysUser18312

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    Oh... Anyway, can people give some information/questions so that I can determine whether I'm truly homosexual/gay (born this way) or not? I only purely admire/get sexually aroused flawless skin of men like arms, face, legs, which sounds quite strange and unusual type of homosexuality/fetish. The reason I only get aroused by the male gender is only boys are naughty. Quite weird, isn't it? That's why I suspect maybe it's somehow environment influenced (such as corporal punishment like beating/slapping) or porn/pictures induced. However, when thinking of kissing/marrying men, it just seems disgusting to me.
     
  6. Amphibian

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    um. How about just enjoy having sex with men as long as it's healthy and consensual?

    Why does this need to be "cured"?
     
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  7. AnmysUser18312

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    I think being gay is wrong in a way especially from biological/reproduction aspect because being gay means I probably can't have true biological children of my own. I don't want to adopt children as I don't believe they are truly my own children. So, this must be cured. Strange that people don't realize how wrong it is when looking from this perspective. I think having sex with men is disgusting. Useless too since it doesn't lead to reproduction.
     
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  8. Amphibian

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    lol. ok, well good luck!
     
  9. Bnsq

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    If you want to know if you are gay or not you have to accept the idea of being gay.
     
  10. Latinmixedboy

    Latinmixedboy Fapstronaut

    I really don’t know if you are really asking this question and I don’t know exactly how old are u ,but u know that at this time in our lifetime is scientific proof that being GAY Is not a DISEASE right?...and u can have kids now in days but different methods,I have friends that are married (gays)and have their own blood kids is a little expensive but worth it ...and what u described are different kinds of fetish’s and every one here has at least one ,I don’t think u should blame yourself for something I think you really don’t know 100% the differences btw all those you mentioned before and I really hope you work things out and find the best solution
     
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  11. Vitalian

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    I think you should just quit masturbation/porn entirely and not try to force yourself to change as you suggest. I feel like that would do more harm than good.
     
  12. hardowner

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    I think that you should stop PMO and rewire. A professional could also help you find the way out. You could be gay. If so, the professional could let you know how to accept and enjoy your life...
     
  13. Zimzi

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    If ur tryna watch porn watch lesbian porn for double the dose lol. Really tho the rewiring works. But it would be better to rewire with a real woman and not porn. If u can’t do that then porn will do. The reason I say this is because when people are addicted to women porn, they still can find it hard to get hard with a real woman. So writing to the porn might not be a good idea.
    Keep in mind this will only work if u were conditioned as ur saying and ur not actually gay. You need to have some attraction to women first.
     

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