Importance of streaks?

4 days is usually how long i make it, it think its because around that time your hormones start acting up and you than give in because your conviction isnt strong enough.

 

The first 2 weeks is the toughest. Thats when you really have to fight. You get past that and you'll have the chance for a good long streak.

 

i'm totally with you man, i make it usually about 5 to 6 but on freaking sunday, screw sunday! idk what it is, but i get like bored or something? for some reason i start to get really strong urges, and i usullay give in to them... but if i fight it off going in to the next week, is easier. other time's i spiral out of control and relapse like 3 times a day for the next week, because i have this delusional idea that its ok now, it does't matter because i already screwed up... screw porn, i've WASTED SO MUCH TIME watching it, im so sick of it controlling my life.

 

It may be related to the chaser effect: The super-charged desire to masturbate that sometimes hits 1-3 days after sexual acts (especially powerful early on in a reboot). Maybe yours extends into the fourth day. Be aware there is another time of greater temptation and that is day seven. Seven days after the last time you came, testosterone is at a peak. So there are considerable difficulties in week one. In my experience, the ride is much smoother when you get to over twenty days.

Yes it does. It's consistently avoiding masturbation; porn; and orgasms that will produce the tangible benefits you hope for.

 

Hormones can't override free will. You have a belief that it will get too difficult and painful to say no at that critical point but this is an illusion. The strength of your conviction is up to you - get rid of that part of yourself that longs for PMO.

 

I always screw up on my 5th day but this time I am really making an effort by being self aware of my thoughts and observing my triggers carefully.

 

Alot of it boils down to beliefs and limiting beliefs - I used to always relapse around 30 days because I didn't want to deal with intense desire or "sexual tension" and would always make excuses to relieve myself. Don't call it tension - that presupposes pain that must be relieved. It is "sexual energy" that must channeled.

 

This is not meant to be critical as this is a challenging journey for everyone however, relapsing after a few days is down to your mindset.
My advice to get past this stage is to fill your time with people and activities but above all try to change your mindset.
That is live your life as someone who does not masturbate rather than someone who is counting days towards their next inevitable relapse.
It really isn't easy I know but please hang in there you can all do this.