let me help you

I have always had a desire to make people happy and to see them smile, i would love to make the world a better place, i am making this thread because i want to help anyone seeking it, i am not a psychiatrist or anything but i am very interested in it and i would like to think i give good advice, i am very good at understanding emotions and helping people, so if anyone has some problems they would like advice or counseling on than please ask me anything, seriously anything, i dont judge, if no one is willing to listen than how will people ever find help?.

 

Thank you for reaching out, believe it or not my situation is very similar to yours, and along my journey i have learned a lot of ways to help myself heal, so i hope i can help you as well. Before you think about sex or a relationship there are some things you need to work out first, for me porn was always a comfort, and a way to escape the cruel reality of the world, of life. You need to replace porn, its been your crutch in life and has helped you get on, but now you realize that the crutch you relied on is really a parasite draining you while keeping you up, its time to find a new healthy crutch that will get you walking on your own. So firsts things first you need to ask yourself what is it you truly want out of life, what is poisoning you and what is the antidote, what are things you desire to do?. Once you have figured those things out you will need to also implement other things, first thing being healthy eating, an unhealthy body will make you feel terrible and it will feed your depression and sadness, cut out junk food, i want you to go to the store and buy green tea, it is the healthiest drink on earth for a reason, just one steaming cup instantly takes my depression away and makes me feel amazing, you will drink 2-3 cups a day, 1 in the morning, 1 at noon, and 1 in the evening, if you cant because of work than fit them in whenever you have time, but make sure you have it, do not add sweeteners or sugar, it might not taste great at first but after a couple days you become addicted to it. Now you need to fill your life with things to replace porn, find hobbies, start exercising, do not get on your computer unless it is work related or you want to do research, if you feel tempted get off immediately and go have a cup of hot green tea and listen to calming music. Meditation is very important, if you do not know how to do it than i will explain, sit on your couch in a comfy upright position, try not to slouch, fold your hands in your lap knuckles facing down, now close you eyes and breath through your nose for 5 seconds, hold it for 3, than release for 8, keep repeating for 30 breaths and than stop, focus on your breath the whole time, feel how calmness takes over. Now one of the most important things you can do is practice self love and positive thoughts, tell yourself that you are changing and that you refuse to live this awful life anymore, you must believe it to, there is no room for negativity in your heart, forgive yourself for the past, it cant be changed, but it can be learned from, take your mistakes and dont repeat them, teach others with the knowledge and wisdom you have gained from your mistakes. You should listen to the sword art online soundtrack by amalee, they talk about struggling with the darkness and they are very inspirational, believe it or not we all need inspiration to help us succeed, we as humans need something to identify with and we need to know that others know what we are going through, if you have any more questions than please ask, i likely didnt cover everything or might have gotten some thing about you wrong so please let me know if you have anything on your mind, i hope i helped a little ^~^.

 

i started masturbating at the age of 12, i actually used a big stuffed animal frog i had found and well it all went down hill from there. My porn addiction didnt get bad until about 2 years ago, i got into some deeper stuff and now i am where i am, for years i didnt even realize i had a problem, not until i took my religion more serious and realized just how far i had fallen. I was bullied a lot as a kid, mostly in school but i have always been quiet and reserved so i was a prime target, i would use porn as a way to escape my pain, it worked up until recently when i realized it was so harmful. And now i have been on a journey to quit.