Nightmare binge relapse

Hi!

Have you tried to think of some goals, something that will make you busy?

For me being bored is a first step to relapse.

I keep my fingers crossed for you and I will pray for you today.

Have a clean 2019!

Stay strong and motivated! The change is out there...

 

God will forgive you for your sin - you have grace through Jesus Christ's shed blood. PMO addiction will force you to draw closer to God than ever. You have to decide in heart that you don't want this anymore, shut the door on it forever - the Lord will give you victory just get back up an start your reboot.

 

Sending you a message!

 

I (and I guess many others) have done this kind of thing as well... (many times to be honest). In my opinion.. the thing that is most important when i've relapsed, is to learn from it, and always getting back on nofap track, instead of feeling like "now it doesnt matter anymore". No matter how many times i relapse, i will keep going back to the nofap lifestyle, and i hope to be pmo free one day.

 

Yeah bro, we all try to improve our lives. To do nofap successfully, it requires a personal transformation, deep soul searching i believe. Working on all areas of Life. Trying to use everything to your advantage, and to learn from the good and the bad. Also you sharing your story, it may help other people,, i was reading it and was like.. i could have written the exact same thing a few days ago man.

But yeah dont dwell on it too much, write down on paper for yourself what led to the relapse, and what you could do different next time. Even if it happens another 100 times, just get back on track asap, and use it to your advantage in reaching your goal ultimately. Of course im not advocating to relapse, but im no saint either.. we have to keep it real. Just give it your best man, succes is not a straight line but have its ups and downs, just keep going forward.

 

I say do not hate PMO. hating anything gives it power over you.

Instead, FOCUS on sobriety. Aim for the goal of sobriety.

No amount of beating yourself is going to help you - only love and wisdom can help.

In my experience, it takes tremendous discipline to go right back to NO PMO after a relapse. There is a backlash phase.

So ride it out with compassion. It may take a few days or weeks, and ya it is depressing, depending on where you are in maturity. Last time i relapsed it only lasted for 2 days (total of 2 relapses) but before I relapsed i went on for months!

Aim for continuous improvement and stop hating porn instead fall in love with sobriety. I find this to work best and release the pressure.

You are taking on one of the hardest jobs any human can take! be proud of yourself for being in the game bro.

Even if you relapse for the rest of your life but you keep giving it a genuine try to stop you are better off than those who never dare to try it!

 

Everyone you see is struggling with their own problems whether you see it or not. Nobody can see your issues past what you tell them. Addiction has three phases—a craving stage, an indulging stage, and a shame phase. The three feed into each other like a feedback loop and that’s what drives the whole thing.

I struggle with the shame too. Trust me that you’re not alone in that. If you want to dissolve those feelings, let it all out and tell people you trust, and remember that the feelings you are having are because you think you’re an isolated, disgusting case. Nothing could be farther from the truth. If you are a normal human, you have drives, and you are capable of feeling shame over them. But from what I can tell you have become just as addicted to beating yourself up as you have the porn. You gotta understand that that is unnecessary, man. It only drives the addiction more. You deserve to forgive yourself.

 

We have a group of men doing a 40 day porn free chalkecha using YouVersion. We'd like you to join us. PM me for info. You can do this.

 

So true.

Good stuff Drew