Really low libido lately..

Hello fellow fapstronauts,

Okay, so I've kind of been off and on this nofap thing for the last 2 months, but I've not been able to stay consistent. Well, I'd say I probably fapped only like 3-4 times during those 2 months, all without porn, but I should still assume I may have relapsed during those times. I also had sex a few times during this period, and I fantasized about "making her pregnant" while we had sex as it really turns me on idk why, is that bad?? I think it's been about 2 weeks now since the last time I fapped, and my libido is legit non existent, and it scares me.. I am struggling to get a boner if I play with my penis and try to get it hard, it takes me minutes of hard work and dedication to just get it decently hard.. So 2 days ago I had sex with a girl who I think is pretty damn hot, and we went on and on with the foreplay for 10+ minutes with me just dry humping her and kissing her and grabbing her good spots, but there was absolutely no reaction from my dick, it was as soft as before I started.. I managed to get it up after a while with me just using my hand, and we had sex for like 2 minutes until it went soft again... I was bloody embarrased and told her it has nothing to do with her. I thought maybe now I have less desire for porn and more for sex and getting physical with a girl but my libido tells me otherwise, and it saddens me.

I eat relatively healthy, take vitamin supplements to try and help getting my hormone levels balanced, I work out, but its not helping me. I can have sex in 5 days when she gets home again, but the question is, in my situation, should I? I mean, is there any point trying to force it when theres next to no desire for it? My mind says god damn I really want to have sex with this beautiful girl, but my dick says otherwise apparently.
And one more thing, I do seem to have less of a desire to watch porn, sometimes I can't stop myself from thinking about all the crazy fetish shit I have watched, but its not the same urge to want to watch it anymore tbh. I have this fetish where I want to cum on her face and lube it all out, but that would sure not be good to do for my recovery so I assume I should stay away from fetishes like that.. same thing with cumming in her mouth I guess, it also may be to similar to porn and cause a relapse..

How long can this reduced libido last and when should I start becoming concerned? Because this is some scary shit imo I'm afraid it becomes permanent, but I'm probably just worried. So my best bet is to just wait things out, see if my libido slowly returns and then maybe I can start thinking about having sex with my friend again?
Appreciate the answers, and happy new year!

 

Appreciate you sharing your experience, I can definitely relate to everything you re talking about. It's the worst feeling when you can't get it up man, like shit. And yeah when a girl gives me heads its much easier to get a boner as you say. I really hope it won't last too long.

 

Oh man I'm not really prepared for that. What you mean with abusing it? My porn addiction wasn't really that bad, I watched it maybe 3-5 times a week, but I was into some weird ass shit because soft porn just didn't do it for me anymore. Now I'm hoping nofap can help me change that, so I am able to get off from normal sex and not some bukkake throatgag crazy shit. I just want to be able to have passionate sex with a partner. As of right now, I have a tendency to view women as sexual objects from watching porn so much which is not at all healthy for a relationship and it makes me unable to have passionate sex it's always just ramming em hard till both comes and nothing else. I don't think I've felt actual love yet with a partner though, so if nofap fixes my brain and I find a girl I love things can become amazing.