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Do you believe in marriage?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by GA93JDeereboy, Dec 30, 2018.

  1. The deeper I got into porn the more I viewed marriage negatively. Now that I'm separating from the PMO life I see marriage favorably.

    Never been married but from what I have observed, marriage is a helluva lot more than what the media and Hollywood want everyone to think.

    My parents have been married for over 52 years. They hardly speak to each other, don't sleep in the same room anymore, and never go anywhere together. But they stay together because they made a commitment. And in ways I see from time to time, they still care for each other. None of that Hollywood romance anymore (don't know if it was ever there) but a high level of commitment that frankly I don't understand and I don't think people from younger generations (once again, including me) don't understand.

    There's something very special going on with these married couples that have been together for decades even though they aren't friends anymore that immature people (such as myself) can't fully appreciate. My parent's aren't the only married couple I've seen in this particular situation. Marriage is a special relationship, I think many try to trivialize it or make it seems worthless. I think that's a huge mistake.
     
  2. Thats based on the many complaints I hear. Not married myself, so it's hard to elaborate.
     
  3. GA93JDeereboy

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    Thanku guys for helping me to decide where I stand on this matter.
     
  4. Will you two get a room already!
     
  5. Buzz Rees

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    This place is hilarious on new year's Eve.

    Without too much consideration for posts above...

    The two aren't mutually exclusive. I'm married, a father, with my wife for 13+years, married 3+years... And we are poly (ie we both have lovers) and it is working out fine, especially of late -- since I got here and stopped wanking (which I used to do all the time). It takes extra effort, extra communication and it isn't worth that for everyone. It is for me. So... There's no contrast, no opposition. You can be committed, deep and in love... And still fucking around and playing with other consenting people. But things come at a cost and if you underestimate that cost... Well you'd be better off not trying then.
     
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  7. 0111zerozero11

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    Did you say special non-"traditional" vows or have a poly officiant?
    Genuinely curious, no disrespect to your lifestyle
     
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  8. Buzz Rees

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    We had custom wows. The ceremony wasn't Christian and the officiant neither as we're not...
     
  9. ultrafabber

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    No such thing as open relationship, open marriage etc. That's all degeneracy and immature people that can't work things out.

    Marriage is only between two people and nobody else, you forsake all others and put all your effort in your marriage.

    At the moment though western world is messed up with casual sex and everybody fucking like animals with no purpose whatsoever. Divorces at all time high, single mothers etc.
     
  10. Buzz Rees

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    That's a conservative view based in specific religious beliefs. (Which, it might surprise you, not everyone shares). In my opinion it is outdated and the fact that you use judgemental, emotionally laden language to express it suggests to me that it's far from an examined rational position. Comes across as something at the level of prejudice or superstition.
     
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  11. ultrafabber

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    No, that's what marriage means and has meant throughout time and has nothing to do with religions beliefs exclusively. Marriage was something that all nations had, with or without religion. This current trend of using "religion" or "conservative" as if it's something bad is the result of degenerate "sex revolution" and atheist brainwash that is obsessed with anti-Christianity.

    If people want to fuck outside their relationship, it's completely improper and hypocritical to call it "marriage", since that's not what the term means.

    That's like saying I go play football when I actually go skate and expect and demand others to accept "playing football" is the same thing as skating.

    Marriage means one thing only. That's an exclusive relationship between two people. Everything else is NOT marriage.
     
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  13. Infrasapiens

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    Yes. Just do not be an idiot and everything should work correctly.
     
  14. Jason_Tesla_19

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    I believe marriage is generally a good thing in society - stable families are important for a stable society. I also believe it's a commitment that should be taken seriously, and unfortunately most people don't share that view. Adultery and divorce are way too common nowadays! I think partially too many people have this mistaken belief that there is "one true love"; not saying that people aren't supposed to commit to one person, but there are no perfect people, and no perfect marriages. It's a matter of being committed to making it work with a "good enough" person. Someone who is constantly looking for someone better, and leaves when they get infatuated with someone else, is missing the point of marriage. I've never been married, although my parents have been married over 38 years, and my maternal grandparents were married about 60 years until death parted them. I also have a bad example from my paternal grandparents, who constantly fought (two type-A personalities - terrible idea!!!) and divorced when I was young. I'd like to be married someday.
     
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  15. ultrafabber

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    Again, marriage is not something tied specifically to religion.

    Aside from that, there were virtually no polyandrous marriages only polygamous marriages (and polygamous ones made some sense actually because many men died in wars) and even in that context they were actually married and had obligations towards each other. No such thing in "modern" degenerate "open" marriages, "cuckold" marriages etc.

    Stick to arguments if you have any and refrain from name calling if you want to continue the conversation.
     
  16. Joe1023

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    I think that way too often, people think of marriage as just a convenient thing to do with someone they think they love, but at the first sign of trouble, they're out the door! Many people who hate marriage do so only because they've never seen it shared as it was designed to be, a joyous way of life between a man and a woman, committing themselves to each other to make a better life together themselves, and possibly kids.
     

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