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Drastic measures

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by R2DToy, Jan 1, 2019.

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  1. Jan 1, 2019 #1
    R2DToy

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    Hello.

    In the past I tried to not do PMO. I think I lasted 8 days max. I will be honest with you.

    I don't WANT to stop. I don't want to because I enjoy the O too much. Yet I do want to stop. No. I think I 'should' stop. I don't actually want to, but I can see the damage being done and I hate it. I think about my future and I can see time running out.

    I also think about my PMO issue many times every day. I'm feeling desperate. Often I will do PMO when I'm barely turned on. Sometimes it's loneliness, sometimes my depression, sometimes boredom, and other times I am actually turned on, only to think 'Why? Why am I doing this?' I don't even WANT to PMO. Yet I do. I must PMO. I've got nothing else pleasureable going on in my life.

    Anyway, I watch P as a means to O. I don't even try to stop and abstain anymore although I desperately want to at the same time. I'm simply addicted to those few seconds of high. The moment I tell myself to stop I will feel restricted, get angry and feel the need to 'break out' as if someone told me what I can and can't do.

    I think the only way for me to recover, is to wear a chastity belt and throw away the key. Even if by some miracle I would recover, I know I will turn to P again because I can't get a girlfriend. What else is a guy to do when he's alone and single?

    Sometimes I think the only viable solution is to try and get a girlfriend - which is one of my desires anyhow - but what woman is going to want someone who can't get his 'motor' to even run idle. That's right, a bunch of years ago until the last time I had paid sex I couldn't keep it 'up' while having intercourse. ED. Even got blue pills for that from my GP.

    I don't even know why I am writing anymore. I will just get this off of my chest and continue PMO anyway.

    P.S. When I say I don't want to stop. I wonder if that's me or my addiction speaking? I'd love to think that's it not me. So I could shake off the feelings of guilt. Not that it changes anything.
     
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  2. Jan 1, 2019 #2
    Andreid

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    Hey man, you just need to keep your brain busy with other activities. You can always start doing new things like running, gym, reading books and other productive things. Also you can watch some techniques about picking up girls. The internet can be a good friend with you use it properly.

    You will always have some bad days where you can do unexpected things like relapsing. Everyone here did that. You just have to learn from these experiences and move, but start somewhere and do your best to progress. If you keep doing all of these you will see long term results that are great.
     
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  3. Apr 11, 2020 #3
    goodnice 3.0

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    how are you doing now? I’m legit considering a chastity belt. What do you think about this? Desperate times call for desperate measures right
     
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  4. Apr 11, 2020 #4
    domsi

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    dont do anything that can hurt you physicaly, ever. never get a chastity belt. the damagr that can be done with it is irreversible.
     
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  5. Apr 11, 2020 #5
    goodnice 3.0

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    what damage can it do? You are physically hurting yourself and destroying your body and mind everytime you relapse so....
     
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  6. Apr 11, 2020 #6
    MrYang29

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    bro, i know what you're feeling. but first, to stop the PMO you must realize the benefits of Semen Retention are amazing. after you know the benefits you should find your purpose to do it, it'll give you drive to it consistently. if you fail, get back up. you'll make it brah, the struggle will be worth it in the end.
     
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  7. Apr 11, 2020 #7
    domsi

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    damage like infections and physical blocking of erections
     
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  8. Apr 11, 2020 #8
    maps

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    Stop complaining about yourself and saying how bad your life is and how no one will want you because having this kind of self destructive mindset causes you all the things you complain about. pick up yourself from the dust and go ahead , conquer the world!
    be grateful for what you have instead of blaming your genetics for the bad things that you experience in your life, and be willing to improve anything you can in your life because you will be amazed of how many things can actually become better in your life if you adapt the right mindset that is needed for you to get out of what seems like this "never ending cycle" of failure and negative feelings . just as you sink into this vicious cycle of addiction and self destructive behavior , you can catch the rolling snowball and turn it into the opposite direction - to the positive direction , and you will start elevating your whole life to a point you never thought you could.
    develop your habits. what do you really LOVE doing ? it can be something you wanted to do your whole life but you stopped yourself from doing for whatever reasons . are you afraid of something ? too embarrassed to do something ? DO IT . start working out . do what you want to do.
    when you change the way you think , you behave differently- consciously and subconsciously. then suddenly everything starts to get better.
    GL
     
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  9. Apr 18, 2020 #9
    R2DToy

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    Not sure why this topic was bumped, it's over a year old.

    There have been some improvements on my side though. Although it's still heavy ups and downs - especially in these crisis times - I have experienced improvement. It turns out, that for me anyway, positive thinking patterns and a good mood are essential to getting a good erection. I still do PMO, because I don't think it's unhealthy. I do think too much of it is.

    These things may seem trivial though, but at times it's difficult to think out of that box you're mentally trapped in. I'm also thinking I should do some exercises like for my pelvis or something, to train that area.

    And yes - I noticed that retention does help me in being more assertive, and feel more confident around women. Although most do M, it's nothing unnatural in my opinion.
     
    R2DToy, Apr 18, 2020
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