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Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Cantgoon, Aug 30, 2018.

  1. Cantgoon

    Cantgoon Fapstronaut

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    I confessed to my wife my porn addiction feeling I needed to come clean. I confessed to being a little obsessed with the teen category for some time. Now she thinks I'm a pedophile. I honestly find that category a little disturbing myself. Especially when it comes to a man in his 40s looking at it. It's like you are trying to find younger and younger girls. I can't say I look for anything other than sexually developed girls, but still. I hold a great deal of guilt for looking at this. I tried to make excuses for myself like pointing out the popularity of that particular category, meaning so many men must look at it. We have had a lot of discussions and even she mentioned that the average playboy bunny is around 19 or 20, trying to rationalize things. But she is having a hard time dealing with my confession and I don't blame her. I only feel shame and so I came here. Hoping I could right myself and in so doing console her in some way. But I have to admit I don't have a lot of confidence that things will get better.
     
  2. Shame is natural but not super helpful. I think you found the right place. The good news is that if you avoid all porn it won't matter what categories exist or that you looked at back in the day. I have shameful categories too, teens being only one of them. Fixations and fetishes are par for course for PAs. 5 days is great! One day at a time. It will take time, but healing can happen with focus and honesty. Cheers.
     
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  3. I sure liked those type videos,especially the ones with old men and young girls.But as we know it is all BS. I never went to my computer seeking that,it just seems the sites start directing you to different areas.
    I often wondered if some of those busted for child porn did so after watching that teen stuff.. I have watched some extreme stuff like women with animals etc.I guess this went on way before computers even existed as I heard people would go to Mexico to watch live shows like that.
    I wonder if people without our type issues would get turned on by some of the things we have.
     
  4. johnny dakers

    johnny dakers Fapstronaut

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    is nausea a withdrawal symptom
     
  5. johnny dakers

    johnny dakers Fapstronaut

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    is nausea a withdrawal symptom?
     
  6. This is NOT pedophilia. Pedophilia is a preference for pre-pubescent girls. The girls in the "teen" category are not pre-pubescent.


    Right - it is pretty much when every woman is at her physical best.

    Yes, some are - but it is a big step from the one to the other.
     
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  7. Reverent

    Reverent Fapstronaut

    Nope
     
  8. Cantgoon

    Cantgoon Fapstronaut

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    Can I ask why you chose my thread to ask this question? Twice?
     
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  9. Cantgoon

    Cantgoon Fapstronaut

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    It's been a hard week. No porn and no booze has been a breeze compared to the state of my relationship with my wife at the moment. Yesterday she told me that I make her want to puke. Not sure we will survive this. Thanks porn.
     
  10. Patrick Carnes, a sex addiction expert, made a comment that
    we sometimes find younger girls attractive, because we were young once and were attracted to those same girls.

    It's a standard comment that men 'trade up' to a younger model.
    Maybe she is uncomfortable about that thought and other things?

    Keep up the communication with her if possible.
    The shame is a hard one to slog through.

    Do not to be hard on your as she wife, and listen,
    as she discovers more about this.

    Get a program going and information and if you are diligent,
    it may begin to allay her fears.
     
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  11. Cantgoon

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    I am being very receptive to everything she says and non confrontational. She's right to feel this way. I kind of feel the same to be honest. I'm just going to be a better person and wait it out. I am also going to seek therapy. My sexual past had a lot of strange behaviors in it. And a lot of porn. I used to find it wherever i could even when it wasn't easily available. Gotta work through that on my side and hope she eventually comes around. Thanks for the advice man.
     
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  12. I'm told the unexamined life is not worth living,
    but the examined life is not easy...

    I am so grateful when the positive results
    of this work becomes visible.

    I found SAA helpful in shame reduction
    and hearing others on various parts of this path, if you can.
     
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    Summer Son Fapstronaut

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