What porn did to me... I REALLY NEED HELP :'(

Oh, wow! I have never heard of this. May I ask: what is your country? Here are some helpful ideas for you... https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/tips-and-tricks-for-newbies.201477

 

good luck quiting! if you need help or advice message me I'll try my best

 

Ah, I see. I had no idea. Welcome bro and I hope you find the tips a good starting point.

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Brother. First let me tell that you've come to the right place. You will find a lot of support through these forums.

The first piece of advice that I can give to you is not to beat yourself up too much. It is true that porn can destroy your self-esteem and self-confidence but you can make the situation worse adding your self pity to it. It is also good to keep in mind that you have formed this habit over the course of 13 years and you have grown somewhat attached to it physically and psychologically. You can't destroy the habit in one day, week, or month. You have to give yourself time to heal and recoup. From my own experience it would be best for you to abstain from porn and any sexual activity. It seems that outside of porn this shouldn't be difficult to do because of the norms of your home country. While you're abstaining you have to transmute this energy (sexual energy) into your personal development and pursuit of your goals. You have to make a hard and fast decision to abstain from porn and weaken this habit and instead focus on building your life.

Now as you go through this process you would want to do you best to abstain but if you are to relapse do not fall into self-pity and do your best not to binge. If you spent the past 13 years bodybuilding a month or two off of working out will not make you a weak man. So it its with this habit that you have been building over the same length of time it will not become weak after a month or two of abstaining. Weaker yes but not weak. As you break down this habit and build new and healthier ones think of it as a traveler on a horse headed to a known destination. If the rider falls off he doesn't sit and cry in self-pity and he doesn't decided to go in the opposite direction on foot because he fell off his horse. He dusts himself off get's back on the horse and continues to his destination. Also, think of a person who is a cigarette addict. If they were smoking two packs a day and now they're down to two sticks a day isn't that great progress? Hasn't the addiction lost much of it's strength? It's the same with us. Even if you relapse you have made progress if you go from watching porn many times daily to once a month. Even if it takes you 1 or more years to complete suppress and replace the habit it is well worth it. Think about it. Even if it takes you two years you will be 26 or 27 years old and will have many more years of sex and marital bliss ahead of you. Not to mention the improved confidence and self-esteem. Discipline yourself my brother. Make a decision, set your goals, and go for it! God Speed the NoFap community is with you!! Many positive vibes your way!!!

 

your welcome!

 

hey welcome, youll definitely succeed in your goal

 

Welcome, my friend! You CAN and WILL heal. It will take time, but it will happen if you work for it.
You can read my new post: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/my-story-so-far-what-ive-learned.209971/
Hopefully it'll help you and give you some hope.
Good luck, brother!

 

Consider taking a break from the internet or making a white list with only a few sites that you know are safe. A few weeks won't kill you and you'll enjoy the sites you stay away from more when you go back.

 

hmmm i dont know why, but are we leaving in same countries ? Mine in south east asia, in case u have simmiliar country as mine

 

ayman003, I can give you advice that helped me and that I often repeat to others.

As mentioned above, it is a good idea to be offline and keep yourself busy with reading books, exercising , going out or practicing a hobby.

If you are online or need to be online, what you can do is put your safe search engines on strict safe modes. This will make sure you see no sexual content. If you think of nude women, look at pictures of baby animals, puppies and kittens. That always calmed my sexual urges.

As for picking up women, I encourage to improve your social skills first, like all of us did. Speak to women you are not attracted to make communication something natural. And speaking to a beautiful woman you like, speak to her like you would speak to someone you are not interested in. Do not use pick up lines or fake compliments, but say something honest and with confidence. Ask her to tell you more about herself so you don't have to do the talking. Women love talking about themselves and showing interest who she is instead of just a sexual attraction will help you score bonus points.If there is anything else you need as advice, we are here to help.

 

i see ur muslim then? Or at least living in muslim country


No wonder i think we have simmiliar situation