Please name things that u do not do to avoid pmo? i.e triggers like getting naked or stroking etc.

1.) Remove the temptation: Install a porn blocker. I have CovenantEyes and have someone you trust become an accountabliity partner -- this is if you are truly taking your recovery serious. Invest in yourself.

2.) Find ways to make yourself busy. Go for a walk, read an article about the dangers of porn (helps a lot), go to the gym, eat chocolate or cheese to help suppress the urge, or something that you take comfort in, don't over do it though.

3.) When the morning wood comes, if you're addicted to the point that you'll relapse after stroking it, don't stroke it. I suggest do the full Hard Mode 90 Day Reboot recovery challenge, no PMO for 3 months straight.

Good luck and keep posting on here and informing yourself and relating with others, you're not alone!

 

Great point guys - I just realized the only times i had long streaks without any major inner turmoil was with a ZERO stroke rule where I would not even let any sexual thoughts go by, let alone touching myself.

More correctly I would not allow myself to indulge in any sexual thoughts and immediately release and let go

And any time i tried to do long streaks while stroking it it eventually turned very challenging and a short-term streak.

 

Some things that worked for me:

- Don't eat too much before going to bed
- Get out of bed as soon as your alarm goes off in the morning
- Suppress sexual thoughts as soon as you get them. It may be difficult to do so at first, but once you get a hang of it, it will be a piece of cake!
- Get active, whether you hit the gym or go out for a long walk/run, just make sure you're sufficiently tired to easily fall asleep at night
- Find a new interesting hobby, preferably something you can do with other people
- Avoid staying up late even during weekends
- Wear loose fitting clothes for bed

 

1.Ban porn on all your devices (Use opendns on wifi router,edit hosts file in your laptop and install cold turkey)
2.Reduce touching your dick.
3.Keep yourself busy and i mean it. Every second every moment of the day. And only go to bed when you know you will fall asleep immediately.
4. Set goals like I'll study this today or clean my room or learn to cook this. If you succeed it will increase your confidence.
5.No Social media. and it's amazing being off of it. I have not used facebook,twitter or instagram for like 4 months now and i don't even care anymore,
6. Switch to a noob mobile phone if it suits you.

 

I think about something sad and any temptation goes away. It always works.

 

You said you are "aiming to not pmo in 2019" while that is a noble goal I would focus on the daily battle.

Often times in this journey it will be focusing on one hour at a time. I can't stress enough to focus on one day at a time.

Ive had APs who would have huge goals "never look at porn ever again!" they'd reset and feel bad. then negative thoughts creep in "I'm too weak, i cant do this, i should just give up" and they disappear off this site.

I would also like to echo "stay off social media" - at first it will be tough but after a while you won't miss it!

 

I am the other way around, so I do not sexualise being naked. So, nakedness does not equate to masturbating to porn.
I think it is the way you think that you need to change. You do not need to live in fear of your penis or of being naked.

 

1. Don't sleep on your stomach, it may cause you to become aroused. Certainly it's a factor in causing wet dreams.
2. Be very careful with what books you choose to read, try to make sure they're clean, and if you do stumble upon a triggering scene, immediately put down the book and go do something else.
3. Leave your bedroom door open.

 

There are plenty of things I do in order to avoid triggers. Such as:

-Never read anything triggering (magazines, books or articles with sexual content).
-Keep myself as busy as possible so I don't have time to think about lust and arousal.
-Only touching my D when peeing, cleaning, scratching and shaving (I never play with it in bed for example).
-Push away any fantasies or triggers as soon as they get into my mind.
-Never watching any TV, modern films or social media.

 

Don't bring electronics to bed. It's my golden rule. Bed is for sleeping only.

 

Sounds like you're halfway wanting to give up stroking but I feel you may relapse if you do, by the way you're talking.

Instead of still considering stroking when you're in the mood. Tell yourself this right now: I will NOT stroke it. Tell yourself no instead of letting a foot in the door to doing it. It's mentally preparing yourself. Just another tactic. It helps with the self control.

 

I do something that completely uses up all my senses which forces me to forget about what I was thinking about. I either exercise, sleep, or play video games online with a friend over a headset. Also, just going out in public works too because then you can’t pmo

 

Alot of people are suggesting things that will keep you busy every waking moment until you collapse from exhaustion at the end of the day. That's definitely fine, especially since most people nowadays live super cushy lives and can handle a little extra struggle, however it is not sustainable.

If the only thing stopping you from touching your penis is that you're super busy, eventually you will fail when you have a lazy day at home. So I'd suggest making a list of reasons why you want to quit pmo and thinking about those reasons when you are tempted to relapse.

If your mindset is "I need to quit porn so that I can find love and be loved", every time you fail you are taking away from that future and every time you succeed you are one day closer. It's essentially giving yourself something to lose by relapsing and something to gain by suceeding.

 

Stroking dick = masturbation
Stroking dick and avoiding orgasm and ejaculation = edging

I advise you stop ALL sexual stimulation via masturbation and edging. This is all part of no-PMO. If you stroke, it's a reset.