35 and Older Accountability Group

Awesome. Delighted for you mate. Sustained energy is a big benefit.

 

hahaha man I live in Canada right now and its FREAKIN COLD - the best place for reboot lol

Women are wearing 10 layers which is helpful - but it is absolutely amazing how my mind can detect a good looking girl from miles ahead and wants to reproduce with her lol

I'm starting to notice a new feeling around women happening for me, it's like women can smell / feel that a guy is reserving his semen

But i know what you mean during the summer it is absolutely crazy - specially where you are because if it is cold most of the year and then it gets warm, people go crazy and there is a huge sexual vibe in the air - samething happends here in Calgary Canada when it gets nice.

What part of the world are yoU?

 

Yes according to many yogic meditators and Buddhists they avoid it at most monasteries as it increases passion.

 

Wow, interesting. I had never heard that. Dunno.. not quite ready to give them up though. But now it is an option to do so. If I were to take on something new, it would be caffeine.. but a two front war is enough for the moment lol.

YES!! Go do it!!

Thanks my man!

Thanks RightEffort. Yes, I can believe that they do. But.. onions and garlic both have very strong tastes. Which, in ancient times, with a limited amount of foods out there to choose from, would be easy to be considered weird. And its always the weird stuff that gets labeled as aphrodisiacs. Snake blood, etc.. I would take it more seriously if I saw some scientific research backing that up.

 

Hi Alexis Mendoza

 

Here we are. the hetero world is not so much different as gay world is. We all seem to have a similar degree of sexualized thoughts. The reason why? Porn? Yes. But not only. Each TV series, each add, each magazine shows us a plenty of nude skin and beauty ideals, only few people wil achive. So with this challenge here, I started to liberate my mind from sexualty. I think that is an important part of the challenge here as well.

How do you guys think about that?

 

I went 37 before 10 days and occasionally i find myself having these thoughts about the future.But i think it's normal for our age and there's no need to face the future with fear.You said you are very old , something i strongly disagree.If you take a look around you will find many people around our age being alone.Most of them sucrificed their personal life for their career and studies while others had a few failed attempts to get engaged with the person they were in relationship with.
I believe that if you are trying hard to find a woman you will have no luck.Somehow women can sense that , lol , and if they are noticing you are needy they will reject you.I remember myself going out trying hard to find a girl and i had no luck while on the other hand when i was cool and i wasn't giving a fuck about finding a girl or not the oportunities started to hit my door without even trying.
So the way i see that , just try to fix your life , keep yourself in good shape both for health and romance reasons , be calm and confident and the oportunities will come to you.You just need a fresh start and something to boost you...if you have faith and believe in yourself things will go in line for you soon.

PS. I have an excelent understanding in english and i am good in speaking because i can easy follow the flow of the conversation but i found it a little difficult to write properly so sorry in advance for my syntax mistakes.

 

Hey guys I really need some help and encouragement. I’ve been addicted to porn for as long as I can remember. Probably since puberty. I got married in 2010 and ended up getting a divorce seven years later due to my addiction. There’s nothing worse than reflecting on all of my secrets and scheming behind my wife’s back.

Fastforward. I’ve moved on, bought my own house and am now dating a girl but I’m still watching porn. I don’t think I’ve ever gone more than 2 weeks without glancing at some kind of erotic image. I feel very weak and I might marry my gf someday but this addiction needs to be put to death first! I am addicted to watching lesbian porn which I know is quite common for guys but it’s pathetic. I have no respect for myself, no fear of God and a very distorted sexualized view of the female gender. When I’m in public and I see a hot woman I automatically think sexual thoughts and hope that she notices me. This is messed up. I’m sure it’s due to all the garbage I’ve watched over the last 20 years .

 

Hey Bro,
Signing up here is a first good step: you showed the will to quit. And you recognized that it is a problem for you. That are two first and very important steps that you already took.
Now ask yourself, why are you watching porn? I did that as well since puberty. And meanwhile I am figuring out the reasons why. I am gay and many years ashamed by this. Trying to hide my nature. Living a unsexual life. Not dating to anybody. Till 21 years without any relation. But watching porn all the time to get at least a bit of pleasure. Now, I am trying to quit as I notice the same like you. My view on (in my case) guys is completely distorted.

So my strategy is to get my 90 days of no PMO done. After that I want to allow myself masturbation and learn more about tantra - not as sex positions but as a state of mind to listen to yourself, Being attentive, taking your time ... Step by step

Back to you: to which degree does your addiction influence your daily life? Would it be an option to tell your girlfriend? In a good relationship there shouldn't be secrets. Maybe she is able to help and support you?

And never give up. Analyze your current situation and set yourself small, realistic goals.

Have you read the free resources of the NoFap Academy? They have a newsletter with some helpful advice.

 

Another day bites the dust......

Keep em temptations away - the moment I think of it or touch my pants, I come to nofap and post and go do some activity or studying - so that I keep engrossed.

Feeling good about myself these days !!

 

First off all thank you for trusting us. We are all here because we experience what you experience. Its hard, and I´ll say it again so you know how hard it is so you can get your brain around it and suit up, I quit drugs and alcohol and I used to use both of them a lot! and porn is harder.... its freaking hard, because its free.... its freaking free...and so easy to get access to, no effort what so ever, nothing... so its hard. Ask your self this... if you wore glasses, and needed crutches to walk, and somebody told you, hey man if you do "x" (and is super hard) for "x" amount of time you can drop those glasses and those crutches, and just see the world as were meant to see it and go out and run, and feel, actually feel, something different, do you think is worth doing it?
Think about actually feeling something different, think about being firm.

 

That’s the problem. Doing”x” is the hardest thing I’ve ever attempted in my life. I can already tell that winning this will be one of the greatest things I’ve ever accomplished in my entire life.

 

37 yr old male. New to nofap. Can I join this group?

 

Hello~ 35 M here. Is there any open spot?
I really would like to join the group and kill this addiction for good... this will sound like super noobie question but what do you mean by activating counter? Is there specific app i have to use for it?

 

Just checking in. Had a bit of a relapse. Uninstalled the blocker from my 2nd laptop. Been meaning to install it again and delete email account/password so it's gone from this laptop permanently.

Will check back in when done.

Also hearing Heretogrow's post about feeling lonely. Feeling similar concern so I hear you. For me, I often feel guilty for never having been married at all and using P as a crutch. Perhaps I would have been married had I not had to rely on it and hooking up. Often feel guilty for depending on parents/family for emotional support.

New to this site so not sure what etiquette is regarding starting a new conversation. Needed to write my own thoughts. Thanks guys. This group is great and has been helpful for me.

 

Just start. Say what whatever you want. Just try not to trigger, so no explicit sex stuff.