Pros and Cons of Hard Mode

Based off the promotional material from the reboot camp and some other threads I've been reading from rebootnation, I'm considering going hard mode. Before I make my decision, however, I want to make sure I've fully considered the ramifications.

To give context- there's a good chance that even if I don't pledge to hard mode, I won't get any opportunities for sex. Currently, I only get a date about once every two months. It used to be that I has to approach women every day in order to make that happen. This past date, however, came about unexpectedly through social circle at almost exactly the two month mark (with that being said, I still had to consciously put in all the effort to make it happen).

Nonetheless, my sexual history seems to be marked fairly heavily by Murphy's law - when I pursue dating, opportunities fail to present themselves. When I turn my back on it, they come out of the woodwork and dangle themselves in front of me (usually only to be yanked away once the temptation feels too strong and I actually try to capitalize). Likewise, I've noticed extreme internal pushback when I decide to say "fuck it, I'm done with woman," leading up to severe bitterness. This last part, however, happened when I said I was done with women forever. I'm not sure if that bitterness will well up when committing to temporary abstinence.

Anyway, I've made the following pros and cons list. I'm interested in input from others - especially those who have personally attempted hard mode - to help with any facets I may have left out.

Short term pros:
- Much less likely to trigger
- Can focus all my effort entirely on self-improvement without dating distractions
- No second guessing whether or not I should be approaching women
- The timing works well with the fact that I will be working lots od overtime in the coming months

Long term pros:
- increase chances of making this my final attempt to reboot
- increase chances that the 90 day reboot will cure my PIED
- Build complete confidence that I can be happy without women in my life so I'm not tempted when a woman wants me to be monogamous

Short term cons:
- Might stir up bitterness
- Have to turn away any opportunities for sex
- Potentially stronger cravings
- Experience Internal resistance against new restrictions
- Might have to face peer pressure from friends to 'hit it' should an opportunity present itself

Long term cons
- Risk losing a social circle prospect should one present an opportunity and I turn them down
- Potential regret over missed opportunities should they arise

 

Are you listing the pros and cons of rebooting in general? Perhaps I should have clarified - I'm doing the 90 day reboot - that's not in question. The question is whether I decide to eschew any opportunities for sex and, realistically, dating for that matter as I see no reason to put myself in a situation where I will be tempted to have sex.

To help put things further into perspective: I've already managed to go 45 days without P, M, and O during a previous attempt. There's a good chance that even if I choose to go "easy mode" that I will be unable to obtain sex anyway (in a sense, a de facto hard mode). But there's always a chance I might "get lucky," so what we're discussing is the pros and cons of choosing to walk away from those situations should they arise.

So with that in mind, does your pros and cons list stand as is?

 

Thanks everyone for chiming in.

@Diesel IGY is correct - I was looking for pros and cons of rebooting with access to sex versus rebooting without access to sex, but the list you gave seems to focus mainly on the pros and cons of rebooting in general. With that being said, I was able to pull some value from it in that it didn't seem like you had any extra cons to mention for taking it a step further to "hard mode."

After reviewing the replies here and discussing things with my roommate, I've decided that I'm going to go forward with committing to hard mode. Ill make it official in my reboot journal.

Thanks again everyone!

@michgem just wanted to give you a particular call out since you answered my question directly. Congrats on 61 days! I'm rooting for you to make it to your wife's birthday