Everyone at work makes fun of me, tips on how to get respected?

totally understand where you are coming from, I work with 98% men in construction and my wife is also in construction which I know men say things about her behind her back, difference is she is the boss, she runs the show so she could fire people so she doesn't hear it to her face, I definitely know how men can be, I used to be one of them who would cast jokes. I used to get no respect not from workers though, from my own family, but I recently started to just say fuck it, if I don't get the respect I deserve I demand it, and if I don't get it, then see ya later..

the absolute biggest thing I've came across in my recovery is just to accept your faults and love yourself, if you truly love yourself, it doesn't. matter what anyone says, you know what's true and you know yourself, if you love yourself, no one can hurt you

P.S. on behalf of us men I apologise for us being pigs,

 

Hey,
sorry to hear about your experience, that sucks. Some younger people havent matured to understand how hurtful these things can be.
You have an advantage because you now know and can recognize it. You'll never likely do the same to others.
You also have the advantage because you're in a spot to recognize and learn that people do these things because of their own issues and it really has nothing to do with you.
Comprehending what I just said and fully understanding it may take some time. It did for me at least. I understood it but when I recognized it with myself then I really understood it and then from there I could sympathize and have empathy for them.
Keep studying motivation, those motivational videos are awesome. Read more about that, find books on the subject. I read one called Your a badass which was good. Find books like that and you'll understand better and get good at dealing with those people.

Another person said love yourself. When I first heard that I didnt understand what it meant. Take time to learn if you dont kmow. It can be as simple as taking care of yourself, to treating yourself to understanding that helping yourself thru this is a form of loving yoluself.

I wish you well, feel free to ask if you have questions, I'm happy to help.

 

I think most what you can do is do some training and get your masculinity up, as they wouldn't dare to make fun
of you because of your strength, at least it have worked for me.

 

Dreams of reality's peace
Blow steam in the face of the beast
The sky could fall down, the wind could cry now
The strong in me, I still smile
- Kendrick Lamar, i

You're probably outshining them in some way. An inferiority complex (on their part) can turn the nicest person into the nastiest a$$hole. At least, that's how it's been from my experience. They've gotta get their rocks off somehow. To compensate for their lack of talent or whatever gold quality you possess.

That's how it's been for me personally. The solution? KEEP SHINING. THEN DISH IT BACK. TEN TIMES HARDER. They'll respect you for it...might even want to be your friend Remember...every day above ground is a good day!

 

Sorry to hear about that.. my suggestion may sound like a 'defeat' but i would maybe search for another job. I can relate how bad it can be in certain environments, and now i have a job in a more suitable environment, it helps me to have more peace of mind. You need an environment that uplifts you. Also be most kind to yourself, top notch self care, trying to become the best you.
If you feel like you have to stay there, don't change for them, stay authentic, but just learn skills on self confidence, not absorbing other people's negativity etc

 

Respect is something you never ask, it is to be earned. As far as colleagues are concerned, better you should focus on yourself & your work, nothing could be gained by focusing on such negative people. When you can't answer them in their ways then it will be good if you ignore them because you keep noticing they will keep doing. Try to upgrade your skills & knowledge at work, the people who are mocking for what you are doing today should ask you tomorrow how you did it.
There are two ways of living life either you accept what you got in life & stop complaining or the other way figure the problem fix it with a solution. Even if you quit this workplace may be you will find the same scenario at other place, then quit then other workplace then again quit..repeat mode till you don't find perfect workplace for yourself. Looks normal but not so much practically feasible so till you don't find any perfect workplace in future, try to make your current workplace perfect. At every place, you will find people pulling your leg whenever you try to climb the ladder by doing something good/innovative, let them have what they actually deserve & that is ignorance. We can't get everything perfect in life but it's up to us how we make perfect of it.

 

If people keep treating you poorly, it probably has something to do with how you're acting -- some people just seem to invite abuse.

Without knowing what the jokes are, what kind of jobs you're working, etc it's hard to give you detailed advice, but generally one of the rules of jokes is always agree with them and then amplify. For example, I'm a thin dude and have been mocked for being a twig or whatever. Instead of defending myself, I'll respond with "Yep, I'm thin -- probably because I don't eat ice cream and cry myself to sleep every night."

Something women have to understand about men is we bond by bashing each other. Naturally, since you're in the work place that will tend to happen with you too. If a guy who gets made fun of runs away, can't hit back, takes it too personally, gets overly offended, etc, he's viewed as a loser and will be made fun of even more. These kinds of guys aren't any fun and they'll also be avoided. The same goes for women -- fragile, easily offended, non-playful women aren't any fun either. The result is people will just make fun of them behind their backs.

Respect is always earned. If you want respect, you need to stand up for yourself. Don't take things so personally. Hit back. Most of all, have fun with it. When someone insults me, makes a joke, whatever, I take it as them throwing the first punch. It's a great excuse to slam the shit out of them in return -- they asked for it. If you can do this in a funny, exaggerated way, you'll earn respect.

Keep in mind, the sexist jokes are mostly just easy material. It's low hanging fruit.

 

If you’ve gone to three jobs and the same issue is following you, then it might be something you’re doing. What do you think you could be doing to cause these people to poke fun at you? And are they actually making fun of you or are you hearing them laugh when you come into a room and assuming they’re making fun of you?

 

I would laughf in there face teenagers all think they got the world in there hands. Don't ever let them think there bugging you because they feed off it. I do have some other tips but breaking a chair over someones head might get your arrested.

 

I don't like to say this but these things rarely change. Either ignore them or find a different job.

 

I would say view yourself more as a woman, since I noticed you called yourself girl at the start of this thread.

Step 1 - View yourself as the bomb! as the best, number 1. View yourself as being an awesome woman, and think about qualities that you love about yourself (possibly meditate on this) - once you respect yourself more, others will respect you.

Step 2 - forgive others. You mentioned that you're tired after work, anger and holding on to the past of what others did to you and possibly thinking about what you will do to them may give you a strong aggresive energy in the short term, but in the long term they will drain you. Let go of these feelings just like you'd let go of something really hot. every day forgive someone, and think more of those you love....or simply let go of thought and just focus on the breath, be present this can work wonders.

Step 3 - exercise at least twice a week. Once you get a sport or hobby that you can see yourself improving at, your self esteem will rise. I don't care if you say you don't have the time, there's always time! If you work 12 hours a day every day, then simply do squats or press ups before you go to bed 3 times a week.

Hope this helps!

 

I'm going to apologize for skipping a bunch of posts, but I'm going to take a different tact here.

Write down each incident with the time and date. Make notes of that. Do it the same day if you can, or do a little note pad.

Contact HR and/or contact an attorney.

 

You can't let them get to you I went through this with my job a month ago. I was working with a guy that didn't know when to keep his mouth shut and I find the more pissed off I got the worst he would be like he could sense it.

So what I did was changed my mindset I started talking confident like nothing he said bugged me and eventually there was no satisfaction from him doing it anymore. So dont let them know it bugs you think of happy thoughts and you'll power through trust me.

If they offend you in front of your face just tell them you dont find that funny and tell a supervisor.

Dont let these idiots affect your mood and change your life they are not worth any thought.

 

Driving a long way to work sucks and if your not being treated well I would be looking for another job sounds like there acting this way hopping you will quit. I don't know what there paying you but it doesn't sound like its worth it.

 

I would first respect yourself. Respect yourself, do not try to seek any kind of respect from these people, you cannot control if they respect you or not.. What you can do is decide what you will tolerate. You can do that by reporting this shit to HR, and saying that it needs to stop. By federal law offensive remarks and discrimination are not permitted in the workplace. I assume you are in the USA. Life is too short for this nonsense. This shit sounds ridiculous and unprofessional. If it were me I would focus on doing a great job at work and finding people that you respect and actually like being around at work and outside of work. You must be self validating. You really don't deserve this.