Relasped today and yesterday

Hang in there buddy! Lots of folks here that have found success have been right where you are. It takes time.

One thing to consider is that each time you watch porn and/or masturbate you are damaging your future marriage and increasing the chances that you will someday get divorced. It's a terrible habit to form and extremely difficult to break. Also, it doesn't just disappear once you get married/date/gf and have a consistent sexual outlet. It just goes into the corner to hide for a little while until you are weak and tired, then it comes back out. Just be happy that you are addressing this now at such an early age in your life. I will pray for you.

 

Try doing it gradually. If you masturbated 7 days this week, try to do 6 days next week, 5 the week after, etc. Try to purposefully watch less extreme categories, orgasm less times per day, and edge for shorter amount of times.

 

It's important to try and find some other activity to focus your attention and energy on. Since you're used to going to porn when you're restless or bored or whatever, you must have some other area you can work on when those feelings arise. So this involves doing some self-work.

One one level you need to plan just practical stuff you can do instead of watching porn, like say doing a crossword puzzle, taking a walk, reading a book, whatever. On another level you need to think of bigger picture stuff like what do you really want to do with your life - e.g. how could you take all that time and energy wasted on porn and put it into something meaningful like a fulfilling job, or meaningful relationship, or positive creative outlet, or spiritual development - whatever may be important to you.

 

I relapased yesterday and today too
I feel miserable but we should keep trying!!, just think every relapse as a mistake, we all make mistakes but we can look back and see what made us to relapse and next time avoid that mistake
For me most of times is a glimpse at something arousing or a naked picture of a girl then i can not control myself. I think when rebooting we should avoid internet/cell phone/video games and all other electronic devices as much as we can and feel that void with something else, something more natural like going out, hang out with people, jogging in nature, reading books etc.

 

Hi there buddy!

Take it slowly. Please. I relapsed too, yesterday, after only made 8 days. I've never made more than 45 days! You'll do it. If you are alone with a device, go out, go to the library, go for a coffee, go walking, try to stay with people, you can do it. We are all in the same boat here, we all know what relapsing is. You can do this. I know you can.