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Letters to Cake; she's in a crisis

Discussion in 'Significant Other Journals' started by 0111zerozero11, Nov 11, 2018.

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  1. 0111zerozero11

    0111zerozero11 Fapstronaut

    This is why journals are so significant; you can start seeing the pattern.
    Cake goes rogue for a bit, then she posts an enlightening journal out of nowhere, then massive music bombs happen.
    That's me headed towards the bottom, getting the thoughts out via writing instead of internalizing, & then music to remember my state of being after I made it through the dip.
    Thank God for Portugal. The Man this go-around

     
  2. I’m not really good at the resentment thing. It’s really hard to let go of. I don’t have any easy answer for you :(

    God forgives us, but only if we repent and ask him to.
    If your ex repented then you would get an apology.
    And if he asked for forgiveness, that would make it different maybe.

    They say the best apology is changed behavior
     
  3. mcgrim

    mcgrim Fapstronaut

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    I'm not sure if this will make much sense but here it goes anyway... I heard once that the only real way to learn how to be a leader is to lead... in the same way the only way to learn how to let go is to let go.

    My suspicion is that deep down you want to hold all that pain and rage close to your heart as a shield to protect yourself and cause him pain. Where in the end all you are doing is holding back your healing and keeping yourself in pain.

    You will know when you are moving forward in letting go because you will feel that weight on your shoulders lifting, that tightness in your chest releasing.

    There are no easy answers for this but I believe you will find your way.

    Good Luck!
     
  4. 0111zerozero11

    0111zerozero11 Fapstronaut

    You are right; I definitely want to protect myself.

    I'll get it figured out & find my way.

    Thank you for making me consider some things I need to work on :)
     
  5. 0111zerozero11

    0111zerozero11 Fapstronaut

    The behavior is what I have been gauging repentance from & I can say with certainty, he hasn't had that talk with God yet. Hopefully I'll be less resentful by the time he does...

    Thank you, as always, my friend
     
  6. Strength And Light

    Strength And Light Fapstronaut

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    IMPORTANT BREAKING NEWS:
    I was thinking that when you refer to your kids in your journal they could be called "Babycakes".

    My brain is easily amused.

    That is all.

    I promise.

    Maybe.

    :)
     
  7. 0111zerozero11

    0111zerozero11 Fapstronaut

    You just took 1st place in the 'suggestions Cake has received' category.

    This is gold & I'm doing it here & irl.

    Your dime is in the mail ;)
     
  8. Kenzi

    Kenzi Fapstronaut

    I had the same thought . And didn't want to considered sexist.
    However... One could be baby cake and the other could be cupcake :)
    They Are two different individuals, after all
     
  9. Twinkies?






    But like really good ones,
    With no trans or sat fats
    By Royal Bakers
    In the South of France.
     
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  10. 0111zerozero11

    0111zerozero11 Fapstronaut

    Yusssss!!!
    Two VERY different individuals

    I'm getting shirts made lololololol
    "The Sweets"....maybe start a band or something ;)
     
  11. 0111zerozero11

    0111zerozero11 Fapstronaut

    Croissants?
    savoureux :)
     
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  12. Kenzi

    Kenzi Fapstronaut

    As a twin... I can't stress it enougho_O
     
  13. I don’t have a twin... do my multiple personalities count? :emoji_joy:
     
  14. I'm triggered. You said that like an American right?
     
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  15. There IS only one @Kenzi
     
  16. Kenzi

    Kenzi Fapstronaut

    Thank you thank you :)
     
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  17. Kenzi

    Kenzi Fapstronaut

    entertainment for your kids. When you need quiet for a minute
     
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  18. 0111zerozero11

    0111zerozero11 Fapstronaut

    Of course I did, Max.
    I'm cognizant of triggers, gah
     
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  19. 0111zerozero11

    0111zerozero11 Fapstronaut

    Ahhh they'll love!
    The Cakes thank you :p
     
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  20. 0111zerozero11

    0111zerozero11 Fapstronaut

    Even though my life took an abrupt u-turn out of nowhere headed towards fuckthisshitville, I do remain humbled by remembering that Cake doesn't really have it that bad.

    The girls you men chat with, fap to, & neglect others for, by far have it way worse than I. Those girls are dying inside.

    I'll just keep smiling as I head to my new destination.

     
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