Advice needed: On second week, feeling intense urges to visit Escort!

Pehaps the reality will cure the fantasy.

 

Brother, I've had something similar. After a month of NoFap, and especially after a time of diminished PMO urges, I got the intensely exciting idea of hiring an escort. I looked up some sites online. I had the opportunity, but by the time the thought sprang up that opportunity was past. And I have not actively tried to hire one since.

I interpreted it positively. I was finally lusting after a real woman and planning, at least mentally, how to arrange a real sexual encounter and how it would go down. I did not, however, linger too long on any of the sites - lest I relapse.

I don't know if hiring one would have been good or bad for me. I am trying for now to harbor my sexual energy and channel it into new areas of my life. Maybe a sexual encounter would have set in back in that regard.

I have nothing to say specifically about TS escorts. Are you ashamed of that desire?

 

Hey @Spartan Shibz and all folks on the Escort hamster wheel.
You have already sussed that escalation plays a part in any addiction and you are right.
I started seeing working girls 30 years ago and only in 2017 started any serious attempt to quit. It's tough. I'm not there yet by a stretch.
I think that the processes that have helped others off PMO habits apply to us too. Here are my guidelines. I sourced them from browing other threads and just learning from sites and articles. I try to adhere to them but i'm far from perfect.
1 - Remember that the battle is winnable - persistence is more important than perfection.
2 - Starve the habit of the oxygen of opportunity. Every minute you challenge the temptation it gets weaker.
3 - The devil makes work for idle hands. Stay busy. Distract yourself.
4 - If you can think about sex again in a wholesome and moral way and abstain completely you will be improving your life right now (and those around you) and you could be touching the lives of people generations from now.
5 - See an urge coming before it arrives and deal with it
6 - Avoid small pre-urges to deal better with the bigger ones that will inevitably follow
7 - Be positive and be with positive people

 

Looking up, searching for escorts etc is no different than porn. It is just a fantasy rush flooding your brain with neurochemicals making you horny. Then when you actually see the escort you will 100% regret it later and the money you lost. Get totally cured from your addiction and then revisit the topic. Until then, consider this no different than porn and stay the hell away.