having alot of sex

I have a friend like you. And he always had his choice of beautiful woman. But i can hear it in his voice and his choice of words that he starts to get resentful in a way of casual woman and sex without real passion and a true connection to the girl.
I never had the choice of woman in my life.
But i know what it feels like to have amazingly beautiful sex with someone i have a connection to and i know what it feels like to "just have sex".
There are worlds apart between those two things, even if you aren't in love with the girl.
Its all about the connection.

 

Because THERE IS more in life then just sex. Bet ignoring it is equally bad. To me, you sound like you should put more time into finding a girl you can fall in love with.
Being vulnerable is what makes the difference.
If you never let someone inside, you will probably always have sex that has no meaning for you.
Both have their reason to exist. They just give you different things in life.
One is just physically, the other gives you romance, a connection and physical fun. It depends on the girl and what you want in your life mate

 

I have had a lot of partners and ONS and casual sex in my 35 years. I suppose it was from not having much luck with women until my mid-twenties and then once I looked older than a teen ager (I didn't look like an adult until 24!) I tried to make up for lost time. Now I'm in a LTR that will hopefully last forever but I feel I've done some damage to this relationship because of my past.

I always crave more, like I want random hook ups all the time. My partner and I do play with others outside of our relationship but I'm constantly wanting more and am never satisfied.

I have ED problems with my partner (maybe because our sex is so vanilla compared to my fantasies) but don't have them with a ONS.

It's time to reassociate sex with my girlfriend as pleasurable instead of fantasies of the past.

 

Well... to be truly happy in a relationship, you need to be on par on a sexual level as well. Thats the reason why we choose to be with a woman. Because she can provide this area that no regular friend ever will be able to provide. And if you look at this very significant aspect of a relationship and think its not an issue, you are lying to yourself and to her as well.

A relationship is supposed to build us up and make us happy, not to bring in even more problems then the outside world already provides us with. That doesnt mean we aren't supposed to work on them, quite the opposite, but the bedroom is such a big issue for both men and women, probably more for the men, but still... i think ignoring it just makes it worse.

 

A bit triggered, are we? : )

He still has similar problems as the rest of us do. And trust me, having a lot of sex doesn't mean your life is a happy life.

 

Sorry this post brought you down. We are all here because we are trying to stop the PMO cycle.

 

Lol so much humble bragging itt. Do you need validation that badly?

 

Too much sex equals too much ejaculating and that obviously will have negative consequences.

 

It depends on the quality of the sex and the quality of the partner you have sex with mate. If you have something like karezza with someone you truly care about, you wouldn't say something like this.
I didn't have karezza yet, but what i did with my last girl comes really fkn close to that. And that kind of sexual experience was just beautiful every way possible. Once you stop making sex just about the orgasm, that is when it becomes amazing.

 

I disagree. I see karezza as too similar to non stop edging, but hey, you do you.

 

Because it is a lot of edging involved. Or it can be. In the end, it will come down to personal preference.
I see more negative aspects on not having sex with a woman you are having a connection to or even are in love with then the other way around.
IF you aren't sleeping with your girl, whether you O or not, what is the point of having this wonderful addition in our live?
A friend has the same benefits. You see each other and talk about everything. What makes the difference with the girls in our lives is that we feel physically attracted to them and we usually want to kiss them, sleep with them and cuddle. All of those things you arent doing with your friends but your body still wants to do.

Ignoring that is a mistake in my opinion.
Or some people just actively dont want to include girls/woman in their lives, whether they feel like they cant get the girl or woman they want or they just got past the desire to be with one entirely.