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Does kissing turn you on ?

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by BumbleTheBee, Jan 14, 2019.

  1. BumbleTheBee

    BumbleTheBee Fapstronaut

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    I've kissed a few girls and I've never been turned on just by kissing. So I wanted to ask is this because I've been desensitized by porn or is it very normal. I'd say I've never enjoyed kissing.

    Question for people who have recovered from PIED, death grip - Did you start enjoying kissing more after recovery even if it was not sexual ? Did you not enjoy kissing previously and enjoy it better after recovery ?
     
  2. Kissing the right person is something, that has always turned me on. So I can take it as a sure sign. If I do not want to the kiss the other person at all or do not even get excited, while I am doing it, I know also then, that it would better for both of us to avoid going further.

    If you have never enjoyed kissing generally, there might be a deeper avoidance of close intimacy underlaying this. You might want to go further into this by any form of helpful therapy then. Of course you can also have sex without having a deeper connection to the other person, but it lacks the intimacy and nonverbal communication, that differentiates a true sexual experience from masturbation, a sex toy or pornography in my opinion. That is why I believe also, that most hooker experiences can not substitute the real deal.
     
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  3. I get turned on by kissing my wife, but I still sometimes have ED, because the exctement doesn't always last.
     
  4. Abetterbrain

    Abetterbrain Fapstronaut

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    When I was a kid/ young adult I got hard just holding hands with a girl.

    I think as you get older you become more desensitised to it. Also if you’re with the same partner a while you don’t get as turned on. This is called the Coolidge effect (think that how you spell it) Look it up, it’s very interesting

    Abstaining from PMO will no doubt increase your sexual efficacy. I find that to be the case when I abstain even for a short time.
     
  5. Hoots

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    Even without porn and during the times i have had much healthier masturbation levels I don't get overly turned on by mouth to mouth kissing. If I'm attracted to a woman then I get can easily get turned on by kissing other parts of her anatomy though if that is relevant to your question.
     
  6. Abetterbrain

    Abetterbrain Fapstronaut

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    Not irrelevant at all! Thanks for sharing.
     
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