A love an urge and a girl

You need to stay on your reboot path and get back to the place where your mind does not wander to every girl that looks a certain way. You have to get to the point where you no longer fantasize about other girls. You should be excited by interacting with your girlfriend.

 

Man that's a tough one. I've never been able to completely avoid thought crime but I imagine with discipline it can be done. Props to you for not giving in to the urge though and if you love your gf then it is worth it not to!

 

Talk to the other girl. Dude do not feel ashamed. Maybe you will fall in love with the other girl over your current girlfriend. Maybe it is time to move on. Make a move and worst case scenario, you have a gf now to fall back on.

 

It is totally understandable. I am married and have never cheated on my wife physically. However, when I had no control over porn I would fantasize about every girl who was remotely attractive. Let your mind totally repair itself and you should start to appreciate your girl on a whole new level the way it's supposed to be.

 

That is a tough one. Maybe limit your interaction with the other girl when your mind is confuse. There are so many women there and of course there are more chances you would meet more people that are your types and click with you. Just learn your priority.

 

Yes I would limit the time if you are going to develop feelings for her. It is ruining your relationship with ur gf. There is a reason why deep friendship is more preferable with same sex because many times feelings are developed when its 1 vs 1 with opposite sex.

Not saying it is easy but without discipline you will stray. How would your gf feel if she finds out you think that way?

Your definition of free spirit is where you want your gf and the perfect body girl. You have to choose one and you cannot have both.