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Great job on the streak brother! Yeah, I really haven’t had any serious relationships in my 30’s now and terrified of it as well. I mean you got to let go for it and so what if it only lasts a few minutes the first time. I’m sure the second time you’ll bounce right back into the swing of it. I tel myself and other people tell me as well you have to out yourself out there and talk to people and get over the insecurities we have. I have the meetup app and intend on going to as many social events as I can and talk to people. The other night I went to Italian speaking meetup and it was really great.

 

Didn´t knew about the meetup app. Looks interesting

 

Personally I’d start dating. Use an app or whatever you find comfortable. Try for some casual dates and build up from there.

Look at it this way, what the worst that can happen? You O after 30 seconds?! Say goodnight and role over haha I feel you with the loner thing. I like being single but also want a loving girl and children someday.

Baby steps my friend. Gradually build up, dating, kissing, communicating then sex.

 

There's alot to be said about the current dating culture for 20 & 30 yr olds and just how off and out of touch so many of us really are with ourselves and our bodies(indoctrinated mainly). I'm nearing 30 myself and i had some major heart breaks and also alot of-okay, but not quite what i want- casual dates, since beginning Nofap about 4 years ago. The main difference i noticed in myself was that although i am more vulnerable to shorter O time in bed or whatever, the time itself is more meaningful. I think we as guys put alot more pressure on ourselves to "last" than a woman cares about, IF the time we do last is quality. So in other words, quality over quantity. Look at it like this, since we on NoFap no longer look at porn all the time or at all, we have become more sensitive to touch a.k.a we've begun to reverse the "death grip" dilemma. Because of this decrease in watching porn we are also much more connected to the person we're with, so instead of it being all visual> this angle, that angle crap, we will become more in tune with touch, taste, smell, sound etc. This breaks through an entirely higher experience of sex, beyond how the movies and tv lie. (loud ruckus knocking of the bed with over emphasized humping motions.)
Personal experience: I swear to god, once i stopped looking at porn and began to become more in touch with myself and the woman i was dating. I made a girl crying orgasm just by sitting with her on top of me. NO HUMPING MOTIONS AT ALL. We just sat there and kissed. Most woman are way more in touch with their bodies and emotions than many of us men will ever be.* I swear to god i'm not making this up. And when i tried to go back to my old habits of being all aggressive and doing it like the movies and crap, she hated it and i felt all this pressure to perform. You see??
I think two of the most interesting things i noticed when i began to break the spell porn had on my life was 2 things
#1 I began to be okay letting the lady take control, which most love btw. and no longer felt the need to dominate all the time or whatever(which is pretty selfish sex, oriented only around me instead of sharing).
#2 When i look back at porn, there is almost 0 touch. If you notice it's just these two body parts mashing together and that is so FAR from actual love making. HAHA, once we break the spell it's almost comical to think about. It's not pleasurable for those people really, it's just this jabbing motion with no connection what so ever and it's so far from true human intimacy.
So back to the topic i think worrying about lasting is counter-intuitive man, because once you find someone who really cares about you, your both going to be so into each other it won't make a difference if it was 30 seconds or 30 minutes. You'll be genuinely bonding at that point. Anyone who overly cares about that shit has got some problems of their own and isn't there to share, but rather to GET theirs. You'll notice the difference right away. Sometimes that's fun too but the deeper, long lasting relationships aren't like that. They have a give and take that goes beyond that superficial ya know?
So don't be afraid to try the waters. Finding that person comes with trying and trying and trying. Don't settle for less and when you find that person that makes you happy and is good to you, grab it! all in, no half assing. Taking chances is what it's all about, rejection and temporary defeat can be our biggest helpers if we let it. So welcome it all as your lessons for helping you grow toward become the person you want to be. Once you get there, the person you want to have will show up.

 

Not lasting for a long time only matters if it's a hookup and you aren't already seriously into each other. If you don't get off somewhat quickly, that can also hurt a woman's ego as well.

Anyways, my longest streak was about 45 days and when I had sex after that I could last for over an hour which never happened when I was PMO'ing. In my experience, NoFap can help you to last longer.

 

If you're fully recovered just fuck your girl twice. If you really want to, you can order some generic v*agra online for the confidence boost, but tbh if a girl is gonna leave you because you didn't last long enough (if it's an isolated event), and not give you a second chance, she's a twat that's not worth your time.