need some help!

Hey, the mind can only pay attention to one thing for so long. I understand when we're fixated on the urge and we're fantasizing, or remembering dirty P-scenes the thoughts will last longer. I was doing that and realized that I wasn't really trying as hard as I thought if I allowed those thoughts to keep coming. So another fellow fapstronaut suggested something that worked for them and myself once I tried it. It's good that you're aware when those urges come to you. Mine is when my toddler takes her nap. When this time comes and you start to feel the urge, take yourself away from the situation. Maybe get out of bed and distract your mind the best that you can. Be busy with something. What I did I put on some calm piano music and nature sounds to contrast the demanding feeling I was feeling. Tried to calm down and I would very carefully fold the laundry. Like I made all my focus and concentration on each article of clothing and listened to the music in the background. After ten minutes of this I noticed that I wasn't thinking dirty thoughts and the urge went away. Ten minutes went to twenty, twenty became an hour, and before I knew it baby was awake and there wen't my opportunity! So for you it could be different, but make sure that whatever you're doing is taking your 100% undivided attention. Find something that makes you 100% present playing an intense video game, cooking, cleaning, exercising, etc. Best of luck! You can do this!

 

What i would do is put on some music when the urges occur and focus on the words of the song. And I've been their many times i know how it feels. When i first stopped pmo for a few days i would be alone and i could not even help myself from doing it. Which it clearly showed how bad my addiction was, but my advice to you to help stop this is listen to music. Also what helped me a lot is i would stay somewhere(like a friends or family house) because i knew i could not pmo their. Best of luck my friend.

 

Take a cold shower, mediatate, walk around the block (even if it’s night, I don’t care) do some push ups...Just do WHATEVER IT TAKES to not masturbate !! WHATEVER IT TAKES !!