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Girl will leave me if I don’t get it up soon

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Jman22, Jan 17, 2019.

  1. Jman22

    Jman22 New Fapstronaut

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    So this is one of my first posts on here. I never really thought I would need to post on here but I have no where else to go...

    So pretty much I have PIED. Within the last month I cut down a lot and masturbated to porn about 2-3 times a week because I tried having sex 3 times prior and couldn’t get it up, but my loneliness drove me back to P.

    Now here’s the situation, I’m not addicted to P...

    But here’s the problem. Three days after I last masturbated I met this new girl and could not get it up. I just said I was tired and that we would do it another time. Now it’s been a week since I last masturbated and have not had an urge for it even once yet. I’ve been going to the gym and basically trying anything to assure that I get it up this time.

    Is there anything else I could possibly do to assure I would get an erection? I haven’t looked at P even once or masturbated in the past week and no urges.. just so scared I won’t get it up because I really do like this girl...
     
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  2. Ghost79

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    You can take the blue pill
     
  3. CTRL + DEL

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    Or the red pill.
     
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  4. Rehab101

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    Twice a week is my normal p routine back then so imo thaz still too much. Your sick is probably mega numb so it will take awhile to heal. You may want some meds to get it up....for the short time being.
    Is this girl someone you care? If you want to start a relationship with her, you need to be honest and gentle with her. If you are just using her as a fk toy, I dont know then.
     
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  5. MetaGame

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    Find some natural assistance to help get the blood flowing near the time. Ginseng, maca, goatweed. Go to a pharmacy and pick up one of those.

    Dont masturbate or watch porn.

    And dont stress out about it. I keep telling people. STRESS IS AN ERECTION KILLER. if u stress about it and worry about it too much it will low the chance.

    Ya thats basically it.
     
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  6. Nothing you can do to ensure erection but in addition to working out, I would be eating healthy and increasing my water intake. There are certain foods that boost sex drive and libido like watermelon, acai and black cumin seed oil. Cut down on meats, heavy starches and anything processed. Do all that and it should make a difference.
     
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  7. Try to relax and not worry. Sex is mental so if you get all stressed and psych yourself out, this will give you issues with the mental side of getting erect in addition to your physical problems.
     
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  8. I've heard several members report that their PIED improved/cured after going hard mode for 30, 60, or 90 days.
     
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  9. Itsmeagain

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    Stop watching porn altogether! If not, your brain will never have enough of that you get with the girl. Even if the girl is willing to vary a lot and be very entertaining and even if she was to reproduce some of what you see in Porn, you will eventually get bored (I'm talking about your brain pathways no longer responding, your senses being numb).

    Sadly, the male brain was geared towards copulating with as many females as possible, in order to increase your chance of a strong lineage...

    Imagine a bull on an acreage with many healthy cows, but the Bull has seen too much cow porn that he doesnt even feel like copulating...

    Watching P and MO'ing is the equivalent of becoming less and less aroused with real sex. Technically, if nobody pays attention to porn addiction, it could be a very important factor in our population declining in the future...
    If you go to the same restaurant every day, you will become bored of the menu and prefer something else. Once you have been to most restaurant in town many times, its just like you don't wanna go anymore...just like when you PMO to something new and start to like some other stuff hard to reproduce in bed or crazy stuff (like cartoons, some fetishes, violence, dom, etc).....then normal sex may not arouse you anymore...


    Yes, stress (regular worries) is an erection killer. High blood pressure is hard on erections too (too much salt, alcohol, not enough exercise). Performance anxiety (will it get up or not) is an erection killer...regular alcohol consumption will cause erection issues (aka whisky dink).

    During my first reboot, I started to buy a multitude of natural health products as mentioned above. Maca, B6 vitamin, garlic extract, potassium, Zinc, stuff that apparently boost Testosterone production, etc.
    In a nutshell, I spent a lot of money and put a lot of faith in those products...I felt like it helped a little ,but it also sounded like another unhealthy focus on something way too much.

    and BTW, I had the opportunity to try the blue pills. And I will tell you that it helps the body to get it up, but if your brain is screwed by PMO and coolidge effect badly...its not enough.

    The blue pill will physically help if the arousal is there...if your brain is so affected that you can't get it up in front of the GF or wife, don't put all your trust into the blue pill (or whatever other competitor's meds for the same thing.

    During my 2 week binge that let me to come back here, I tried the blue pill during a binge ( to binge more, lol how crazy) and it wasn't sufficient to keep it up, as I had a few drinks that night...I also tried with the wife a few nights after and I bombed with 1/2 blue pill.

    When the brain is bored due to the coolidge effect (need for novelty is there and the same old is no longer arousing), you will need a new trill to get it up...this is where PMO is so damaging to a relationship...

    Beleive me or not, I'm able to not getting it up with a blue pill if I concentrate. Its not a miracle drug that takes you by surprise and makes you get up in a flash and that get you to stay up for hours whether you like it or not. It will bring blood flow to the penis if you are aroused and can stay aroused.
    So, if the PMO addiction took its toll on you big time, bluwe pill may help a lot, but not always. My 2 cents...

    Mind you, I'm 45 yo. I don't know what kind of effect a 20-30 yo is to expect by taking blue pills.
     
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    Well said itsmeagain.......
    I have experienced alot of what you were expressing and I can say ditto to your remarks...thanks for mailing it on the head.....no pun intended......and I can say yes to all of what you mentioned.
    Abstaining is a must to overcome this issue...
    And I have spent alot of freaking money on those stupid pills that are supposed to help when the Doctors don't get to the root of the problem but only mask it by prescribing medications which screws up your mind due to dependability on the drug....
    To get your mind free from porn and the touch of another woman or man depending on your preference is what your supposed to feel and want and not rely or desire the urge for looking at fantasy which screws the mind up from all that is natural.....
    Yes I struggled in that area and am not perfect but have come to the realization that I need to experience the normal dopamine from real experience and not some fantasy porn site.

    Anyways. Thanks again for your post bud .
    And everyone keep up the good work and persevere brothers and sistas

    Peace out
     
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  13. ReclaimedLife

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    Did you see her again? I am curious what happened with her.
     
  14. ProtagonistOfMyLife

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    If you have PIED you most likely have abused P to a certain degree. Reboot and get it over with.
     

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