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Talk to my GF about it

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by thedutchman, Jan 20, 2019.

  1. thedutchman

    thedutchman Fapstronaut

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    I am not the guy whining about things. In fact I always try to fix things myself. Be responsible and stand up for myself. With my problem it is different. I tried frequently to stop. Tried for ages to help myself. I even went to therapy for it. Well you know how that worked out..

    An hour my GF caught me. I even tried to lie about it. She was persistent but sweet. She was helpful and understanding. I only feel shame and disgust. Im honest about everything, but with my problem I always lie about it. She doesn't force me to stop. I want to stop. It' s ruining my life. I stared to the ground motionless for 30 minutes after.

    The thing is, I never talk about it until she caught me. If there is a possibility to hide it, I hide it. Everything so I can keep doing it. I know I have to change, and I know I can' t do it alone. How do I open up to GF? I can' t keep my promise I won' t do it again. I really don' t want to but I am to weak to hold myself.

    Does someone has any ideas?
     
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  2. Morolto

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    I recently told my girlfriend of 2 years about my problems with PMO a few weeks ago. First and foremost you definitely should own up to it, especially after she caught you. You have nothing to lose here. Make sure she understands that your addiction isn't predicated on a lack of attraction to her but predicated on bad habits that have snowballed on you, just like a drug addiction would so to speak. I think this is one of the most important components to talk about. Make sure she is aware of all the things you are doing to right the ship: therapy, forum help groups, porn blockers (maybe have your GF create a password locked pornblocker, this is what I did), and little tricks you try to use to stop PMO (for example, the 3 second rule...seeing an attractive girl online or in real life but looking for no longer than 3 seconds). Coming to terms with you addiction will take so much pressure off your shoulders. I was filled with fear when I hid my PMO problem from my GF even though I knew she would be super understanding and not mad at me, but boy did it feel good to get it off my chest.

    Good luck man, I know you can do it!
     
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  3. Theamos

    Theamos Fapstronaut

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    What did she catch you doing
     
  4. thedutchman

    thedutchman Fapstronaut

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    @Theamos Watching P
    @Morolto Hej, thanks. I talked to her. It was kinda awkward and she has some issues trusting me, which is logical because I don't trust myself but I' m glad she caught me.
    Today Is my reboot. Im gonna try quitting.
     
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