Masterbation every day

Hmm this is a hard one. One of the biggest signs of addiction is that you fap just to do it and not for the pleasure. That being said this doesn’t mean it’s irreversible! You can turn this around so quickly and successfully. First thing I would say is the hardest thing to do is to tell your wife about this, you are married and that bond brings the best out of people. This may or may not be hard depending how open you are, you can also tell a friend about this, they know you better then I do and they can possibly whip up a better solution. Second would be make your mind busy, as soon as you are about to wank, do math...I know this sound weird but it has worked for me, putting my mind into stress or complex situation defeats the urge, because you are fighting the urge now, not the pleasure it gives. I do algorithms and math problems so that easily defeats the urge. Thirdly, take a book to the restroom. I found it ever since I have gotten into a reading my urge to read a book is at times more then to wank. Now these ways work for me to defeat the urge to mindlessly wank at times, I could be wrong but that’s what I do. I think you just need to busy yourself so you forget about wanking. It’s nothing to be shamed of sir! You are human, you WILL beat this!

 

Why people call it MASTERbation ? What's so "master"about it ? Is it because its some sort of art that can be mastered or ?

 

It is spelled masturbation.

As far as jerking off everyday, you become so sensitive to pressure and timing when you go to have 'real' sex with your wife, it is very difficult to replicate. When you say you go weeks with out sex - you are not being accurate because masturbation is sex - you are just doing it without your wife and your sex drive will be limited because you are already 'taking care of it'. Although I am relapsing now and porn is overloading my brain - I have had success with NoFap in the past and found sex with my wife is incredible once you get porn out of the picture.

Good luck, and for your wife's sake - take a small break from porn and masturbating and see if it rekindles your intimacy. It may take a while because of years of bad habits but you can do it.

 

Another thought Dave,
One of my triggers for masturbating is when I am tired (oddly also when I am wide awake and feeling great but save that for different post). My guard is down and I feel it will help me get to sleep. I have a 5 year old daughter and having one kid is crazy exhausting I can't imagine having three. Don't beat yourself up, your life is chaotic and masturbating is a great way to relief stress. Just keep porn out of the picture and things will start to normalize.