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Here's what I'm thinking

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by JensDK42, Feb 14, 2015.

  1. JensDK42

    JensDK42 Guest

    Hello guys, I've been thinking about something for 30 minutes or so, and I want to get it off my chest.

    I tell myself that it's okay to PMO until I get a girlfriend. That I answer to nobody other than myself before then. This thing about affecting only myself is a big part of my ideology, but it's messing with reality. I'm not going to get a girlfriend while I'm PMO'ing. Which is understandable. Looking at myself, I like to play victim and see myself as a hero. I just don't know how to grow from that. I am aware of many 'right' things I should do, but I am unsure at times, if I start being too beta by accepting other people's bad behavior.
     
  2. heartpower

    heartpower Fapstronaut

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    With what you said you are basically equating having a girlfriend with PMO, as if one is a suitable substitute forever. I believe the issue is in your values. What do you want out of a girlfriend? What do you get out of PMO? So, I think the best route for yourself would be to find satisfaction in things that resonate with your ideals regarding a relationship. If your goal was to be a pornstar, perhaps PMO would be a good substitute. Otherwise a good example of a substitute would be something like time in nature, or the companionship that a pet offers. You know what I'm saying?
     
  3. JensDK42

    JensDK42 Guest

    Yes, I do, thank you a lot!
    I am 17, and we have a dog. I could take better care of her. I will try that. :)
     
  4. heartpower

    heartpower Fapstronaut

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    Great idea :) I'm sure that will be quite rewarding. A lot of what you speak of will come with age. But for now you are in a great position to create meaningful relationships and a happy life for yourself :) Good luck
     
  5. Aryan

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    I must say this way you will not succeed at nofap.Suppose you got a girlfriend and you broke up,then what?You are connecting PM to getting a girlfriend.My advice would be do not interrelate anything to PM or sooner or later you are going back to old habits.Good Luck,
     
  6. SpideyMan

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    Remove PMO as a part of your lifestyle.
     

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