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I am scared i won't be the same person i was before nofap(Please Respone fast)

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Redhood210, Jan 22, 2019.

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  1. Redhood210

    Redhood210 Fapstronaut

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    Before Porn came into my life i was straight and happy with it i also had a girlfriend at the time that i really loved and had a good time with. So i am scared that after i start the Nofap Journey i might be gay or bi and not the straight guy i used to be (Ps never taught about boys as a partner or had any sexual feelings about them.) I am suffering with hod right now and as well as PMO and can't tell what is real feelings or lies by my hocd anymore. I don't want to be gay or bi and i just want to go back before i had this taught and be straight again and live happy.
     
  2. Dblst

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    What makes you think you could be gay? If you've never experienced attraction towards men, then I don't think you're gay.
     
  3. Redhood210

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    Hocd really what is making me think this way and also the fact that i have been PMO for 2 years now and has affected to the point that straight porn is boring. Every time i think about something gay because of Hocd my anxiety increases and then a thought tells Me WTF NO Way in hell i would do that. Honestly right now everything is just so confusing and i don't know what to do. I can still get off to straight porn if i try but it is just taking too much effort to get a boner and as well to get off to it. Before it would take like 1-3min now it takes like 10mins and it is also hard to keep a boner as well. I am 15 btw.
     
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  4. IGY

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    That is quite a quick time to go from zero to straight porn is boring. It suggests that you have consumed a shit-ton of porn. I am not saying that to make you feel bad Redhood, but we need to talk about the reality of what is going on with you, OK?

    You have experienced 2 things: (1) the Coolidge effect and (2) HOCD. These occur when there has been heavy porn use.

    (1) This is where something that used to give you pleasure no longer does so, because you need something more taboo or extreme to get the same effect. Novelty can give you a bigger effect, and so can things that shock. That is how guys can end up watching stuff they don't even like. It is like the 'wrongness' of it is part of why it feels arousing. It's fucked up!

    (2) There are so many examples of this when guys use porn heavily. It is another example of things being fucked up! You are a straight guy. What will happen when you stop masturbating and stop porn is that your brain will "reboot to factory settings". In other words, this HOCD will be gone. You will be the straight dude you were before all this crap happened. :)
     
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    This is explained along with some other really useful stuff in this 15 minute talk. It is well worth watching:

     
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    Thanks for the help. Hocd is telling me rn that i would be gay if i stop porn and shit and i just really think back to my childhood before porn and realize i never had these thoughts and all my sexual encounters were all with girls and i loved them. I have a lot of guy friends but when i was a kid and i never felt any attraction too them. Also i could remember times were i used to like girls and shit back in middle school. Also I went to a party last Saturday while my hocd was going on and idk wtf happen but i had tons of attraction to girls at the party and also i my ex crush was there and i was getting jealous at the fact she was paying more attention to my friends instead of me. So i can honestly say i am still straight and honestly i am happy about that.
     
  7. mdz

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    I was in the same situation. Worried that i have been "hidden gay" or bi, my whole life, I almost accepted it, before i found NOfap.

    I remember when i just talked to some guy and thought to myself "I must not feel attraction to this man" etc.

    I was so wrong. It was all the coolidge effect and habituation. Thank god i am heterosexual.

    Now after a long time of "sobriety", this feel so distant to me., like:
    I am not attracted to transwomen, transexuals anymore. I find sissy porn, stupid and silly. The pure sight of a naked male body (in gym for example), feels disgusting to me. Now i only feel attraction to women.

    I think its better to inform of the big dangers of porn, than to forbid it.
    It should be taught in school what can happen after heavy porn use. If mentioning "impotence", turning gay/transwoman, i think it will scare off many boys.
     
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  8. Redhood210

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    Thanks for the reply. Rn i am on day 1 trying to get through day 2 and it isn't that bad yet lol, i heard it gets a lot harder than this. Yea i keep thinking hard about it and i don't really remember anytime at all throughout my childhood till now that i ever thought gay at all and i am really trying to remember. All i was thinking about was school, and getting a gf, then after that get marry and have kids. So gonna try to do nofap for 2 weeks then add another 2 weeks till i don't need porn anymore. I hope that i can recover fast so i can go out and get myself a gf. Also idk why but when i am at school by HOCD doesn't bother me i usually think like my old straight self about girls and etc. Like i said about the party. I can talk to girls fine and the new girl i like my heart starts to beat like crazy and i get really shy and around guys i don't feel any sexual attraction and also i just view them as the bros.
     

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