help please!!!

There is no "secret" or "magic bullet." There are thousands of strategies, numerous resources, and countless tools to use. This won't be a sprint. It's not a "Okay, just do this one thing" for a specified amount of time and then you are cured.

Instead, it is a marathon. It is constantly experimenting with different things and picking yourself back up every time you fall. I highly suggest all of the resources I've linked in my signature - they have all been very helpful for me in my attempts. With that being said, what's worked for me may not ultimately work for you - you have to try it and see how much mileage you get out it.

There is also reboot camp: http://www.nofapacademy.com/reboot-...3181421d3d40c1c53e9b52f2fdfd5668e3efa78853b9f
I'm having some trouble logging in, so I can't currently tell you too much about the program. I anticipate, however, that it will certainly be worth the money if you can afford it.

Finally, my biggest piece of advice to you: try something different every time. Every time you give in to the urge, think back about what circumstances led you towards giving in, then make adjustments accordingly. Even if you can't figure out what those circumstances were, pick something random and try it out. That's how I got started using my stickers and calendar as a motivational tool (http://www.nofap.com/forum/showthread.php?23705-90-Day-Reboot) - and it's been one of the most successful strategies I've found to keep me motivated on a wide range of self-improvement initiatives.

With that being said, it doesn't appear to help my roommate much, and there were many things I tried that ultimately didn't help much. Nonetheless, if you don't experiment, you are almost guaranteed to repeat the same failures over and over. Learn from each cycle, adjust, and get right back on the bandwagon.

 

Hey kopman,

One resource that really helped me is this 30 day video workshop put out by xxxchurch. It is a Christian curriculum but in my opinion it is not that "spiritual." I grew up in the church but now have issues with it and don't really practice my faith and I didn't think the workshop is to "christian." It does a great job of explaining the addiction, explaining what is going on in your brain when you look at porn, and helping you discover some of the deeper reason as to why you might have turned to porn in the first place. It costs money but in my opinion it is worth it. It won't cure you in 30 days but it has helped me get on track and do some real serious recovery. Here's the link so you can check it out: http://www.x3pure.com

Also, one other word of advice, and this is just what helps me so I'm not saying I know it all but i'm just speaking from experience, in the early stages of abstaining you really need to get rid of all the different ways you can access porn. I know that this feels like a cheap way to succeed but in my opinions our brains our too attached to porn and will overtake our strongest motivation to succeed. After we have a good amount of days under our belts, and that amount is different for everyone, then trusting ourselves is a little safer. If you have access to the internet on your phone you need to get rid of it, or if you always PMO when you're home alone, for the first month or two, never be home alone. That's just my opinion. I hope this helps. Good luck. The cool thing is, as long as you keep trying, it doesn't matter how many times you fail, you can still succeed.

 

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