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What 'healthy punishments for relapse and 'healthy' rewards do y'all recomend

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by immadothis, Jan 25, 2019.

  1. immadothis

    immadothis Fapstronaut

    So I read your replies,

    also, what's the problem with self-harming punishments are,

    relapse is already 'self-harming', so to order to heal, you have to love yourself, right, so yeah I see
    for punishments like

    deep squats, or the 3 day challenge, I once completed the 1 week one, but yeah them challenges aren't helping me but the first time it did because it was seen as something new,


    I have gone on Reddit too, so I think the worst punishment that's going to help you, is to write your relapse on your journal, but because it releases way too much shame if you do it online, you can do it privately on a paper journal, but maybe writing what you felt before the relapse, sometimes when we go mentally floating you can easy relapse, so when it's written it's clear, or meditation

    now reading, writing, meditation, cold showers ain't a habit for me, but man I got a cold, every time I do cold showers I get a cold, so I ain't getting it, every time I do meditation I fall asleep or if it's just thinking in air, I get hornier, now if my situation was to be outside all times, I won't relapse, but my situation is studying at home, library ain't always open, and yeah getting sick is the worst shit, I see some post saying, they get sick for 2 weeks but they didn't relapse, this sick phase is fake, it's just witchdral symptons, goodluck to y'all, man at least burning your hand with a sigarette is bad but at least there is a lesson from it, that it won't work, even if you cut your arms of there still ways to watch porn or mastrubate, even if you cut your dick off, there still ways to watch porn, and the dick ain't the problem but the brain is,

    so good luck to y'all but

    I really want this, WHY?, Because it's ruining relationships and my grades man, it's ruining my future and grades and to eat right, I don't have the self-control, I need it, and nofap is the best way, exercise is part of it,

    let's see what happens this streak
    I will try to write it all, and try to live at the moment
     
    Last edited: Jan 25, 2019
  2. MarinoBigFan1984

    MarinoBigFan1984 Fapstronaut

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  3. Consistent92

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    I burned myself with cigarettes on my last relapse, on the hand. not healthy i know.
     
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  4. barteljaap

    barteljaap Fapstronaut

    Punishment is never a good way to get something done. You need to dive deeper in why you want to quit. purpose will give you more strength. And if you really want a punishment make sure it is something that will make you more committed like replacing a bad habit with a good one.
     
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  5. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    "Punishment thinking" is exactly the type of personality that keeps you deep in the addiction. One part of yourself is empty and traumatized and is asking for your own self-love and another part of yourself is constantly punishing that other part over some nonsense. It is like bullying and it is happening within you. That's how it was coded in you when you were young by one of your parent or both or the traumatizing environment.

    Please change that coding within yourself and start to see the world with different eyes. Be kind to yourself and start to love yourself. The more you become aligned with your true self the more you will forget what the addiction is. Punishment will fuck up your life and you will get nowhere ever.
     
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  6. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    I like your bear icon :emoji_thumbsup::emoji_thumbsup:
     
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  7. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    Well done man, keep going!!
     
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  8. IGY

    IGY Fapstronaut
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    Jesus Christ! That is much more than not healthy. That is deliberate self-harm! :( Are you getting psychiatric support bro?
     
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  9. MarinoBigFan1984

    MarinoBigFan1984 Fapstronaut

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    I don’t advocate burning yourself obviously but punishment in the form of self reflection can be good in some instances.
     
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