I. A. Accountability group???

Perhaps there is an excercise
for this in one the books?

Don’t know.

The money buys the road map?
Ask Dr Weiss why he charges.

I have no real idea
what I bought in the books.
Other than that,
willingness buys the effort
to do the work.

I can’t see that a communicative
committed person would be refused.
It’s just, this is a disease of isolation.

Several members are trying to just do the work.
Having some support of like minded men,
MAY make this and our marriages work.

Suit up and show up.

Had sponsees want to recover,
one day
But refuse to do the work,
the next.

Putting my oxygen mask on first now.

 

So I took the IA test. Answered
enough questions in affirmative to qualify.
I wonder how a sexual Anorexia may fit in here?

Books cometh.

The IA test:
https://intimacyanorexia.com/ia-test/

My SO took the test about me.
She said I don’t qualify.
I reminded her that she
was raised by wolves....

I don’t know, the books will come
And I will learn what I need while
supporting recovery for group.

 

I assume this is the IA Workbook book:
https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/intimacy-anorexia-workbook/

I have the IA book itself on my kindle app -- I just ordered the Workbook..arrives on Monday.

 

These workbooks are for those in relationships who are trying to heal their relationship from IA (not necessarily/only porn). IA could be completely separate and have nothing to do with anyone on the forum (though lots of IA's fall into PMO).

The books aren't that expensive but they can be saved up for in about a month if on a tight budget. Trust me, I totally get the strapped for $ thing.

And to the other members points these are workbooks, it's a take home program. If you don't have the books you'll simply be really confused. Hell, even with the books you get confused because there are no instructions! I have to ask my sponsor half the time about the exercises since they've already been through them and know the drill.

Isn't there also already a group for men wanting help? @Jagliana didn't you start a group for couples who wanted help??

And yes @Kenzi is right about copyright infringement.

Another thing is someone who wants recovery will pay. That is a step of making a commitment, a financial one, and for those who respect and appreciate money, they will just be that much more invested in healing themselves. I know that Jak and I are doing the books AND doing couples therapy every week. It can add up, and honestly, I think the books are doing a lot of thw work, so when we are in therapy we can discuss progress, points at which we are stuck at, etc.

Part of recovering from addiction is knowing you need outside help. And help isn't always free (especially with take home programs based off a 3-5 day in person intensive in the $1000's of dollars). So I think spending $150 (for both the IA and MA) books isn't at all bad compared to the three-five day intensive that most people cannot afford. I think Weiss released these books for the public because he realized not everyone could afford the weekend intensive he offers.

 

Yes! and in that group, we post links to as many free resources that we could find, that have helped us.

This is the group: Couples in Recovery

 

any news to report on the group? just want to make sure everyone is still on board. I know as a PA and an IA, I have a short attention span and really have to work hard on staying focused on my goals and what I want.

 

As a backup plan...I manage this group on NoFap:
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?groups/winning-back-your-sos-trust.41/

We could all join it -- I could add another private forum under that group .. and we could do our IA Workbook there.

(I remember it took a good little bit before an admin created that group a while ago.)

 

Still in.

The books and dvd came today.
We watched an hour of the 90 min IA video
until SO fell asleep.

It took a few weeks to start
the ‘Married Men in Recovery’ group.
Patience and persistence may be the trial
which limit frivolous groups?

 

I am in, can wait as I still have 17 days to go on NFA so the longer the better for me ;-)

 

sounds good. until then I suggest a daily check in on this thread. doesn't have to be long or overly winded. just something some that says "I'm here, I'm trying, and (maybe) this is what I've learned."

For me I've been at this since November and so far I've had 2 IA relapses. I really dont want to have anymore. my goal for today is to stay accountable with kenzi and do all of my 5 Cs.

 

Funny, I don’t fit all the definitions, but the aspect of staying busy, sexual anorexia seemed to fit.

We tried some of the checking in on feelings and praises.

When he brought up the five love languages of which she and I match up well, I found my hand was touching her and I just gave her some chocolate, her favorite.

The fabric of my emotional life needs to be shook out, ironed and our martial ‘bed’ remade.

 

Nice work!

Open a forum thread when you get a chance. As a manager you have that power button!

In that forum, threads can be posted.