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How to fight the porn that is burned into your brain and keeps popping up?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by ReclaimedLife, Jan 9, 2019.

  1. ReclaimedLife

    ReclaimedLife Fapstronaut

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    Hey there!

    I've noticed during a roughly 3 months streak that, occasionally thoughts and images of porn are popping up in my brain. Especially if i don't have any real girls around me.

    Is there a way of thinking that stops the brain from bringing up those old "porn memories"? I really want to ban every single image of porn from my memory and rebuild it.

    I hope you guys are having an amazing day and all the best for your nofap challenges, it will make us all into better versions of ourselves!!
     
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  2. only time will help you, that and doing healthy things.
     
  3. Clarke

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    Get a girl to drain your balls and think about her instead
     
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  4. Newlife33

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    Play them out in your head. Let the thoughts come and let them go. Pass them through you and question them. Do I really want this? Is this really me? Then when you realize they are not a healthy thing and they are not reality, natural attraction will resume. But you cannot just "stop them". They have to be processed.
     
  5. I guess nobody really knows, how mind exactly works. But it definitely helps to get rid as much as possible of limiting beliefs (while keeping it real though): desires and thoughts control me --->>> I control thoughts and desires. I am working towards self mastery.

    When I get a porn memory in my mind, i either try to not pay attention to it... let it pass... or i try to replace it with something else (picture of a buddha, or an armor that blocks incoming arrows).
     
  6. They really do go away after a while or become very minimal.
     
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  7. Chris84usa

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    Sometimes when I’m at the gym and a hot girl is in view, I will typically move some place else where she is not in view. If I allow myself to stare at her then I start to want her and that wants leads to a feeling that I must have her or my life is not complete. This is kinda what Buddhism teaches when it says that desire unfulfilled leads to our suffering. We want something but if we can’t have it then we suffer. So the key to not suffering is to not desire in the first place. And by not looking I stop desire. So the key to clearing out those thoughts are not entertaining the thought in the first place, when it does come into view we move to a place where it is not in view, eventually we begin to desire less and suffer less.
     
  8. The Lone Ranger

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    I’m too an optimist when it comes to this. I think time and a change of lifestyle will make the pictures in my memory pale and to the most part go away. In about 2-3 years I believe 95% of it to be washed away, overwritten by better content.

    On the other hand, I also think that I will be able to draw the most imprinted pictures to mind for the rest of my life. Like healed wounds that sometimes leaves scars. Maybe I can use them as a reminder of the foolishness I once contributed to?

    Thanks for sharing everyone
     
  9. ReclaimedLife

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    I have to figure out what about porn is good and what is unhealthy. Unleashing your inner beast as a man
    in the bedroom is very very healthy, but having super unrealistic standarts for both myself and my partner when it comes to looks or what she has to be open for is downright destrcutive.

    I really like that u used the words "Self Mastery". I am currently listening to a lot of motivational speakers and Les Brown is one of the ones who uses "Self Mastery" as well. He inspired me greatly, just like Will Smith, Alan Watts and Tony Robbins.
    Because that is what it comes down to. Its not just about nofap. Its trying to achieve greatness in all aspects of our lives.

    Thanks for the encouragement, i really value that, it helps to keep me going.

    But human sexuality is a basic need. I've had this need all my life. And people kill themself if it doesnt get fulfilled or start redirecting it into extremely unhealthy habits or actions.

    It is super fascinating to see how we can train our mind in a way that a basic human need seemingly can be controlled to a certain degree.

    I just started reading "The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness" by Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, a book about a buddhist who connects their teachings with modern science.

    It's really interesting and i am really curious on how it further unfolds.
     
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  10. Chris84usa

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    I view sex more as a want than a need, what I mean is that yes it is necessary for life to flourish but man doesn’t need it to live a good life. There are so many men that have committed to being abstinent and by doing so accomplished great things. One of oldest living men when asked what the secret of his living so long said, “abstinence, yoga and meditation these are the keys.” But don’t get me wrong I love sex but it’s not my everything, I’m complete with or without sex.
     
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  11. TheMightyPenguin

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    So I've personally been struggling with this, it's actually the main thing that causes me anguish. But I've learned from it. If you want to keep your psyche in check, don't fight the thoughts. Now admittedly, that's a fairly ambiguous statement since it doesn't specify what fighting them is, but I can only offer personal insight in terms of that.

    My remedies have been to reinforce the positive features in my life and it often overwhelms the toxic thoughts. For example, I may think about all the progress I've made and continue to make to affirm how obscene or laughable it is to have those thoughts. Being afraid of them or fighting them usually creates anxiety and agitation on my part

    Beyond that, it's been a year since such imagery and thoughts were sparked and I can confidently say that committing to nofap has rewarded me with respect to that. The thoughts are far less prevelant. Things may not heal as fast as we. May like to, but working to do so gets things started and depending on the work being done, the progress may fast tracked too. Maybe try meditation or journaling for more peace of mind if you haven't. It works for some and could for you too :) Keep up the work.
     
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  12. Imagine the images as fading from color into black & white, then crumbling into pieces and blowing away in the wind.
     
  13. ReclaimedLife

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    Well... That means you can go a full year without having sex? Do you have the chance of being able to fuck a girl you are really attracted to and still choose not to? Or are you just able to somehow ignore this part of your being?

    I am now a month into no porn and made around 23 days before i started to go nuts and MO'ed without porn, and very little imagining. But i was thinking about sex 24/7 at that point and couldn't go out and meet or see any cute girl i was attracted to without just thinking about sex...
    I have become better at dealing with the thoughts about my ex, even though she still pops up, its MUCH less frequently. And i dont fight them anymore, a have accepted that she was the first girl i ever had any relations to and slept with, so of course my brain will bring her up. Its intrinsically.
    Its not a bad thing either. It just is. Buddhism showed me to observe those thoughts without judging them or attaching any emotions to those thoughts. Fascinatingly, that really often helps.

    Doesn't work for the will of my body to want to have sex though. The only thing that gets me back in line with that so far is MO.
     
  14. Bellicose

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    Hello, I`m a new member and start it just right now. 1 day without porn
     
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  15. I hear you. The other morning as I was close to waking up, I had a hallucination (like I hadn't yet stopped dreaming) of a pornographic picture on a computer screen being moved into my vision, and when I averted my eyes, the screen moved in front of my eyes again. I realised that I was dreaming, and so immediately thought of something else to replace the image. That worked for me.
     
  16. Ra's Al Ghul

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    You must fight to get clean streak til the DeltaFosB loses its grip.
     
  17. I have the same problem even though i just stopped PMO for 1 week. I can't sleep well, and it nearly let me lost control, yes today is really hard, when the pic view in mind i try to start a meditation(even thought its not standard, i just want to led my attention to other things.) I don't know how many days i can inist, but i have to try.
     
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