When will sex feel as good as masturbation?

The satisfaction varies. Usually I enjoy the orgasm but sometimes I can just say: "Omg, wow, that was it? That sucked"
Obviously rebooting helps and learning to trust and letting yourself get comfortable with intimacy. At some point nofap will have done its magic and the rest is psychosomatic.
Nofap can make you sensitive and aroused to your partner, but there still might be those emotional road blocks preventing you from enjoying the experience.
I would describe myself as an independant man, so the idea of masturbation had always been more promising to me than sex with someone else who could judge me and my performance, who could let me down, disappoint me etc.

It is a matter of practice, you will get used to sex more. You also have to be critical with yourself. You could start a journal and write about your experiences, what made you feel good and comfortable, and what made you feel bad and uncomfortable and why.

 

How long have you been PM-free?

For me, even if the sex isn't as powerful as intense fetishised masturbation is, the latter lacks the intimacy, closeness, bonding and connection that a real person provides. I'd rather have the former any day.

Having said that, now that I'm ⅔ of the way into my hard reboot, my old fetishes have already started to fall away. The thought of doing what I used to do doesn't hold the same draw any more — it feels distant, pointless, empty, devoid of meaning. Lonely.

That's why I've asked how long your current streak is.

 

Yo man, this is a complicated issue. Im not a psychologist but I believe that pornaddiction and masturbation has become a safe space for a lot of guys, for example I watch porn to escape reality and when you escape you cannot be present and therefor you cannot feel the deep emotions inside(hurt, neglect, rejections). Sex is very intimate for me when im not fapping and also its completely different, porn is an escape. I believe its bad to even compare the two because its so different. So when watching porn and masturbating you escape those bad feelings but you give up your intimacy and authentic self. So for sex to be awesome again I believe we got to get in touch with our emotions that porn is blocking from us.

A more simple explanation is:
If you are not confident enough to be sad/bored/angry/frustrated etc.. alone, how could you possibly connect with someone else and even harder with someone you love. How can you dare to enjoy an orgasm with a girl.

Do you want an escape orgasm, or an intimate orgasm with a girl.
Give it time man. A reboot doesn't happen over night, you know yourself best but I would suggest you get to know yourself truly before you focus on your sex life. You are probably as me a member of this forum because sex is an issue.

Thats my thoughts....

All the best! =)

 

yeah I agree with @overclocked many of the times sex is just "meh" but sometimes it's better. To be completely honest it feels amazing without a condom and I orgasm pretty quickly. With a condom on, I just start to think "I'd be faster if I was alone and could use my hands.

 

Speed isn't everything, you know.

 

Porn has a numbing affect that a lot of us have gotten used to. It's hard for us to see the impact it's having on our life. We're lost in this realm of anonymous comfort. When we try to get intimate with another person the shock of dealing with a "real" person throws our senses off. It is hard to admit to. It is hard to accept. But it is the reality. Porn is a modern phenomenon and our bodies were not designed around it.

It'll take a while mate. You have to give it time and it will get enjoyable.

 

Very true, I suppose that may be another way I am missing out on the true joys of sexual intimacy. No journey in the orgasm, it's just become a "get in and get out kinda thing". Very much another realm to develop.