35 and Older Accountability Group

Yes I get it but for me struggling with this love addiction thing it is helpful to carve out time in my day just to thank myself - not others for doing this or that to me - in this way I feel more grounded and more in tune with myself, I feel more self-sufficient and turn that inner critic down because I readjust the focus to myself and try to see good things in myself and work on them - not become focused on bad things which leads to bad mood in general. It's how I trick and train my mind to be more submissive to me. I will be looking forward to your thoughts on how these other methods have worked for you.

 

82 days, checking in. HOpe you're all doing well...

 

Awesome!

 

check in: day 34 running. Thanks to a lot of pranayama today I feel very good and focused in the present moment. Though I cannot ignore the fact that in less then eight hours I'll set a new all time personal best in rebooting from PMO!
Good luck to all of you

 

Thanks @RightEffort and @artifact for being there, each on your own, helpful way.

I´m still here, and didn´t felt, just rode it out, and said, hey, I´m right there from those 90, let me just push thru...
I´m better now. Lots of meditation and reading of sacred text.
I found out that what helps me the most is the thought that if I want to meet someone special I can´t come from a place of need and mental weakness.

9 more... lets do this.

Abrazos!!!!!

 

What do you think about "goals"? like... after I finished my last post I stayed thinking... "do I have a goal? which is it? 90 days? NoFap for ever? to meet someone? save my spiritual energy'" ...
Do you have one defined goal?
I have to admit that my main one is a spiritual one.

 

Good question.

One thing I learned from a mentor is to ask what decision would make me most grateful 5 years from now.

I am thinking about this myself - my goal is a more direct connection and awareness of my higher Self being able to listen to that small voice and be willing and courageous enough to follow it

 

I'm checking in on day 4. After I made it to a 15 days streak, I relapsed last week. The good thing is that P isn't constantly on my mind and I'm able to focus on other things.

My current goal is to make it to 90 days. Having many people in this group who are setting long streakes gives me lots of motivation and confidence, thanks for all that.

 

That is a good tool right there. I´m going to use it.

Keep at it. And yes For me is the same, P just vanishes away, it even seems grotesque at some point, p is another story... but good job man. Check in yes!!!!


I think I´m definitely doing this for spiritual reasons.

 

hey guys did you hear from @srussell ? Did he leave our group? Could you share a few words what happened, because he just reached his 90 day goal -

I like to know what happens to people after the 90 day Lol

 

Maybe after 90 days, we can make a group to reach our relationship goals only open to those who have at least 90 days of NoFap and are committed to doing another 90 days of NoFap

I realized my goal now is to do 1 year of NoFap, but after the 90 days, I'm feeling ready to start dating again.

 

just noticed in the group description it says this group is for guys like myself... but I recently learned we also have 2 girls in our group. so perhaps that has to be updated to "guys or girls..."

 

LOL I thought so too, until I called @fleurette a bro and she corrected me