Almost 50 and New Here

Hello brother! Welcome! Thank you for sharing your story. You are making a wise move to come here and get help. Remember that your value does not come from your sexual activity though we can be tricked into thinking it does. I remember fudging the numbers when I was younger because I thought it made me sound better. Your value is in how much God loves you.

 

Welcome to the community.

 

I loved the honesty in your post, sir. I am sure a little spellbound but I must appreciate you for putting in the courage and writing this. You have indeed come to a beautiful forum and I am sure you are free of any negative judgement here.

Our heart needs something and porn promises that.

I am sure you feel empty, broken, wicked and incomplete as a man and so you end up using these visual stimulations to fill that gap. And we never feel masculine/ great post draining our vitality. There are shame and guilt and it reaffirms our beliefs about ourselves that we are empty, broken and can never get a woman.

This is a soul snare cycle. And it would continue forever.

I can recommend you this book and I am sure it would change your beliefs about Porn and Sex. Better late than never. All the best sir

Hope to see you active here!

 

Oh you'll definitely see some crazy stories on here. We're all freaks and losers here, good that we have a place to talk about this stuff. Welcome here and good luck!

 

Welcome to the community. you are in the right place. Hope you find motivation and courage to break the addiction. We don't know what future holds for us, please don't lose faith in yourself.

 

Welcome! Good luck on your journey .

 

I think being a virgin later in life is more common than you might think amongst porn users. I am not a virgin myself, however it has been 14 years since i've been intimate with a woman and i'm 35 now. During those 14 years, porn became my sexual outlet and in the process i pretty much lost my mind and hit rock bottom. The thing with porn is that it can never love you back and in the pursuit of these hyper sexualised images and fantasies we abandon the skills that need to be developed socially to date women and become eligible bachelors. regular women in the world 'outside of your magazine or computer screen' are not sexually available nymphomaniacs, they have feelings, needs, expectations, standards and aspirations.

It is going to take time to undo the harmful effects of porn on your self esteem and view of how dating and relationships work but you are in the right place for support and i think it's never too late to make changes.

 

Speak for yourself

lol just kidding

 

Well, you've found somewhere you can be honest about it. Hopefully that will bring some feeling of relief.

Yeah well you know what, fuck them. It's none of their business.

It is possible to have an awesome life without sex- look at the many famous celibates throughout history, and people on diverse spiritual paths. That said, there is a world of difference between doing it in a healthy, intentional way, and doing it with the cancer of porn in your life. And, as has been pointed out, you'll be in a much better position to meet women without porn. If you read around here and the web about NoFap benefits, you'll also see that you can massively enhance that benefit if you abstain from masturbation. So, whatever you choose to do going forward, you'll be in a better position without porn.

I suggest deleting that collection if you haven't already.

Keep coming back. Things can start getting better now.

keep fighting